I mean, my friend, the courage it requires to stand tall and stand firm in your devotion to your Faith, your marriage, your love for DH. You are dignified and graceful, indeed.
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I mean, my friend, the courage it requires to stand tall and stand firm in your devotion to your Faith, your marriage, your love for DH. You are dignified and graceful, indeed.
This makes me cry. I am not special, I am not looking for any rewards beyond what God deems I deserve. I just want to live my life knowing that I am following His will. That is where my dignity and grace comes from.
I am not going to lie. Some days are very hard. Having DH here for 6-9 hours a day and to not be able to touch him, hug him, kiss him, and having to guard what comes out of my mouth is a huge struggle. Watching him with our children fills my heart with joy and despair all at the same time.
he gets here shortly after he gets off work and stay until bedtime. We eat dinner together and attend the kids' activities together, often taking one car. And yet, every night he leaves to go back to his brother's house to sleep. I am not a fool. L know that there is a huge probability that he spends the drive here and back on the phone with her. despite what she thinks though, i have the best part of him--his children--and she will never have that.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash" (Matthew 7:24-27).
Just trying to keep the rock under my feet.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Mike, if it is just questions for your own self, that is not a problem at all. being a "baby" christian, which I feel many times even being saved as a child I am still, is about learning and growing closer to him thru both the bible and thru using the help of other christians. My post was for those who are questioning SMW's faith and stand in her saved marriage.
Remember, even from a NONchristian viewpoint, this is all about attitude. If you are DBing without the right attitude and you don't believe you can't do this...well, guess what...you won't. Right now, this is a difficult time and what SMW needs is support for what she believes in. She needs people helping her push thru and keeping her positive.
Now, you may think I'm being hypocritical because for those who want to end their marriage or are giving up, I would do the opposite. But, that is because they are looking at the negative viewpoint. that their M will never get better, that their S will never change, etc.
does that make sense?
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"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
That may be the single biggest influence on why I allow him the time I do with the kids and at the house. I don't want to ever be the reason that he does not have a relationship with his kids. He is so good with them--albeit he was better before all of this happened, but he is still much better than many other men I have seen. Tonight, I wanted so much to give him a hug and tell him thank you for being a good dad for his kids. I probably will do it sometime in the next week. He needs to know that I do appreciate him and all he does.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
I think that would be a great idea.
and good job taking the kids anyways. If DH's reasons were really because of your mom, I'd like to see his look when he finds out she wasn't there and you guys had a blast.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
The kids and I had fun yesterday, even though we did not get to see the concert that was the basis for the trip in the first place. The section of the park where they held the concert was packed out over half an hour before the concert and we could not get in. We were able to go to the rides around that area and listen, though.
D6 rode her first big roller coaster yesterday! She absolutely loved it! I got to be the person that took her on it and we have pictures of her from before and after. The first thing she asked when we got off was if she could ride it again.
Church yesterday morning was wonderful. We had a national recording artist there and had a full service of praise and worship. It was a real treat and something I will remember for a long time to come.
My dad is back in town--my niece is getting married on Saturday. He will be over later on today. My house looks like a disaster zone. D9 has been hoarding her laundry and dropped all of it in the middle of the family room last night because she is out of clothes. So, I will apparently be doing laundry today.
Unfortunately, I caught a cold over the weekend and I feel like crud. I would like nothing better than to just go crawl back into bed and go back to sleep. But, the house and laundry will not take care of themselves.
Hope everyone had a blessed weekend and is looking forward to the week ahead with anticipation and joy at all the Lord will bring to you.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Sorry you are sick SMW. Take care of yourself first please. D9's laundry won't do itself, but can you do just part of it so she has something to wear but not do all of it at once? Give yourself a break lady!
Glad you had a great time at the amusment park. What was the concert you didn't get to see?
I have the funniest picture ever of my son during his first rollercoaster ride on the Rockin' Rollercoaster at Disney. The look of sheer terror on his face was priceless!!!!
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Sorry you are sick SMW. Take care of yourself first please. D9's laundry won't do itself, but can you do just part of it so she has something to wear but not do all of it at once? Give yourself a break lady!
I ate some breakfast and had a cup of coffee. I read a book while I was eating and just decomposed. I feel a bit better. Of course, the boys took advantage of it and got into some stuff that I had to deal with. Two spankings later and one is asleep the other is contrite. I still have a basket to bring down and sort, but I already have 5 loads of laundry--and that does not include my 0r D17 clothes!! The little girls leave clothes all over their rooms and rather than put them up when they decide not to wear them, they end up in the wash. I am so tired of washing clean clothes!
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Glad you had a great time at the amusment park. What was the concert you didn't get to see?
We were supposed to see Sanctus Real, StellarKart, and MercyMe. No suck luck! Next weekend Third Day is playing, the following week Newsboys, but I can't attend either concert. The last week of the month, though, is Brandon Heath, Mandisa, and TobyMac. We are SO NOT missing that one!!
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I have the funniest picture ever of my son during his first rollercoaster ride on the Rockin' Rollercoaster at Disney. The look of sheer terror on his face was priceless!!!!
The pics are in D17's camera and I did not see them yet. D6 was scared with the big hills--one of which drops right over a lake--but she still loved it and wants to go again. I love coasters and so does DH, so she will come by her addiction honestly! LOL
Back to the laundry.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
