Since I haven't posted in over 6 months on my old thread, I know there are many here who are not familiar with my sitch. While it is all here for your review if you are interested, I will briefly recap by saying God restored my marriage in relatively short order compared to many here who continue to stand for their own restoration.
Nearly 2 years later, I am in AWE of His power to do what we sometimes don't believe is possible! I post tonight to give another praise report.
Many of you know that 5 months into my separation, my old company (I was let go in November) offered me a chance at a promotion in Florida. I decided my marriage was over and I needed to think about the future so I "put my name in the hat". I just missed out on getting that job and instead received a promotion in my then current location (Praise God for that outcome). Fast forward to November 2008 and tough times lead my company to initiate the largest downsizing in our history. I left the company "at peace" and begin my search in this tough economy. Although I will admit times where my faith waivered....God was very much at work (as He was and is in my marriage restoration)! Friday night I was told by the lead company in my job search that I will be receiving an offer on Monday evening to move to Dallas to join their Headquarter's team...praise GOD!
To all here...Old Friends AND New Friends...please never lose faith! God can and does deliver on His promises...sometimes in spite of our waivering. During the depths of my separation, of course I grieved for my own sitch....but, God laid on my heart that there were and are many others in pain equal and greater than my own....some of whom had passed through my life years before and I give them little or no attention. I grieved! I don't think this was a guilt thing....as much as it was God softening my heart to others around me. At that time, I asked God to show me when He wants me involved....and I will be obedient. So, that is my test these days...I come here often to read and I post as often as I believe God leads. Mostly, I found myself on boards other than MLC....but, I pray daily for many (all) of you!
A quick shout out to my personal list of friends and supporters who helped me through....AmyC, Praying4AMiracle, Frank_D, 4Kids, I_Wanna_Make_It_Work, FaithIsBelieving, Jeannette1120, Lisset/Lissie, missmyfriend, Jackthreebeans, BrandNewDay, Cinderellaman, Bworl/Deb, ANew2Moro, Poohbear, Was2Sad, FLTC, Catfan, Steelersfan, MrsH!
My W and I were out to dinner last night celebrating (alright a bit prematurely) and she said "Well, we're empty-nesters now. I'm looking forward to focusing on this next phase of our lives and I'm at peace about moving to Dallas, turning 50, and whatever God gives us!" Well said, Honey....Well said!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
How I miss you when you're gone, but how happy I always feel when you come back to post about the miracles in your life !
I am so very proud of you, you truly are a man of God and the love and friendship and compassion you feel for others seeps through in your posts, ALWAYS !
I hope an early congratulations is ok, and may you find even greater times in Dallas !
Your awakening about the suffering we all go through, has happened to me lately too, it has put so much into perspective and it is making my understanding of life a better one.
I wish you and your W the very very very best of what God offers us and I hope you will enjoy your life as 'emptynesters' and do some fun stuff still !!!!
Much love as always, Cinders xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
FH, Yea! I am so happy for you that you have had so many blessings in your life. I hope the move goes smooth for you and you quickly get settled in Dallas.
I have reread your old posts and am confident in eventual restoration in my marriage. God will work it out in His time, not mine. I wanted to wish you good luck on your job opportunities, but I also want to say to you, "Well done, good and faithful servant." I am thinking the victory of being able to share this new adventure with your beloved by your side makes God's victory over the machinations of the enemy so much sweeter. Best wishes and must luck. IF you ever feel so inclined, I would love your input in my situation.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Congratulations on the new job, new marriage, and new stage of your life. You deserve all the blessings God is giving you. Thanks for the encouraging posts for some of us that have been at this for a long while. It helps more than you know.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
FaithfulH, Congratulations! What a wonderful testimony! You chose to trust in the Lord and to allow HIM to walk with you on your journey and, in return, your prayers have been answered! What an amazing God we have!
I am so very thrilled for you!
I pray that you and your wife will continue to be blessed through the years to come.
Please check in with us from time to time to let us know how things are going!
Well, dear Friends! I thought today might be a good time for a quick update. It is my lovely D's 22nd Birthday....and tomorrow is my lovely W's and my 29th Anniversary!! I have come to expect that things will continue to get better and better....even when that does not seem possible! And whenever I feel those inevitable moments of frustration, depression or despair....I simply pause to ask God to help me deal with it....and He always does! I also ask Him to keep showing me what got us to the point where my W saw separation and D as the only way out...and He does! I just shared with my friend Lovenomatterwhat on his sitch that I think we sometimes fail to understand how much our sitches ARE about us and our healing and growth. I am a "work in progress" for the rest of my life!
For any newbies to DB, I want to encourage you to press forward and keep on walking out of the pit....your spouses ARE worth it! Some who lose hope here will try to tell you that your chances are slim....I don't believe that for a second....if YOU keep walking it out. That is not to say that EVERY M will be restored...we may never know what God's bigger purpose is in those....but, I think far too many fail because the LBS gave up too early. I want to encourage you to keep moving forward even when it feels like you cannot. The blessings on the other side of the mountain of pain are worth every tear!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
