Hey H, good for you that you have calmed down. Listen, I just want to save you some bad days by letting you know that it doesnt do either of you any good if you keep going off on your h.
You will just be going in circles and he really isnt hearing you. He is off in lalaland.
Just get whatever legal info you need to get and get back on the path of your journey. Keep moving forward.
I guess I'm the romantic jerk here, but Hopeful, I think him moving out, if he does, might be a very good thing for you. When H got his own place, things were taking a better turn and that new place ALL ALONE, BY HIMSELF, really did wonders for our relationship. He wants to joke and call that place his "fortress of solitude" but it's really his "Sad, Depression Fortress of Solitude." Stay strong.
Well, sorry all, but I stopped Dbing & am trying to push my H out & the divorce forward as soon as possible. We are being cordial to each other, but I have really stopped caring about him. It is getting easier & easier. I do nothing for him or to help him and basically try to interact with him the least bit possible. I have been meeting lots of new people & going out quite a bit. I am getting really excited to start dating again. I barely even think about my sitch anymore except to tie up the loose ends to get him out of the house.
Me 36, Him 33 M 11yrs, T 15yrs S 8, D 7 ILYBINILWY - 1/09 H moves out 10/09 D to be final SOON I HOPE!
Hey Hopeful, As I read your last post, can I ask what your goals are at this point? As I hear a turning point for you, my hope is for you to hold onto some clear focus of what you want to do.
So, if you are choosing to let go, what is it that you want to accomplish and do well these next few months?
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My goals are to start living my life again & to have fun doing it. I need to get my finances in order & make sure I know how much I need to make to survive. I need to get all the divorce stuff worked out w/custody, money, etc.
Fortunately for me, I have always been the breadwinner & am able to keep my house & everything in it. He doesn't really want anything.
I might get slammed for this one, but to be honest, I want to get my old self back. The one before I was beaten down & trying to make changes. I'm sure some will stick with me, but I liked myself before, my friends & family liked me & I was happy with who I was. I feel like I lost something in this process & I want to get it back.
Me 36, Him 33 M 11yrs, T 15yrs S 8, D 7 ILYBINILWY - 1/09 H moves out 10/09 D to be final SOON I HOPE!
