Nothing major going on. The boys are going to spend the night at my parents and it is ex's weekend so I will actually have almost a full day "off"! Don't get me wrong I love them all to bits but to actually do nothing or something because that is what I want is kind of nice. Maybe a movie.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
One good I see out of what is happening with me are the weekends "off". Even though it is not what I wanted. But I do need time alone and I am long passed the point of feeling a bad mother to admit it... Thanks Kat K
Honestly in this mess, I believe it does one a world of good to get a bit of time off. Granted if I were still married, I would only be getting time off when my parents take the kids(2 of them anyway), so even then not fully "off". The boys didn't want to go to their grandparents so much this weekend, S16 wanted to be home and see his friends. I get that but I also know that the nights he spends with his grandparents will soon be coming to an end due to work, school and his growing social life. Plus, I haven't had but a few hours off since this whole mess began.
It certainly doesn't make you or me or any other parent for that matter bad because they want that little bit of time for themselves to regroup. This division of time and holidays isn't always what we want but we need to put on our happy face for the kids and make our own special time with them. I did this when I was a flight attendant and rarely got a holiday off, I can do it again now.
Hugs dear Maria. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
For a long time I just felt comfortable here and I had my friends here. Lately, there are so many new "faces", I feel that when this thread ends I will be moving over to surviving. I do suppose that your friends find you where ever you are but I do feel that it is time to move.
Where do you feel you belong? I think most people here are still trying to save their marriages but Karen and Yoyo are pretty much done with that and they are still here for now. Everyone has their own time line to get to where they are going. I would be happy to see you where ever you decide to go.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I feel that when this thread ends I will be moving over to surviving. I do suppose that your friends find you where ever you are but I do feel that it is time to move.
kat
Ditto. When this thread ends I figure should be good time to "move"--hopefully sometime in September or October with my D being in November. I think a lot of the people here have moved to Surviving. Did you enjoy your time off???
Nice to have a few hours to myself. I did laundry, dishes, shampooed the living room carpet, scooba'd the bathroom and kitchen. Thought all was good until my dad threw in his 50 cents today and said that I really needed to clean a specific room. That he couldn't live in my house the way it is and if he were Bryan he would have left too.
I said well he should have gotten off his fat @ss and done something about it rather than not do anything until I got home. I think he is trying to get me mad to motivate me, but I also told him, you wanted me to get over it and deal with it right then, but I couldn't until I was ready. I know I have issues holding on to things as I come by being a pack rat naturally but then I need to Let Go. I am trying to face the why of that now. So maybe the house won't be perfect now but it will start to be as I am letting go bit by bit.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I like you here in this forum, but will find you wherever you go. You ARE surviving, so it is probably where you should be. But, we always remember our "roots" , don't we? I just don't feel right moving yet. Probably shoudl be in Piecing. I just feel like people understand me here. I'm babbling. Anyway, hope you are enjoying your day.
I like it here too and my hope was that people would see how it is after the divorce and take something from those issues because you know it is strange going to another forum where you don't "know" anyone. But I notice than when I do have a problem or a vent, I am lost behind the newer posts because "kat doesn't have problems" type of thinking. Just my take, no one has ever said that.
Sorry if I am being whiney. Just the way I am feeling at the moment.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
