Can I take a number? Had some good (I think) developments today and tonight. Would love to get your perspective on it cuz I am wondering if what my W is doing is the way a WAS reaches out to the LBS.
Good morning!! I've had you on my heart extra this week and just wanted to let you know. You and your family are in my prayers daily...still and will always be!!! I hope you are feeling stronger today, and that each day brings you longer and more frequent times of feeling good!
Me? I'm doing well. My boys are doing well. We are putting our lives back together, and we are going to be sure we strive to put them back together right this time. The D was final on June 12. The 1st of August marked a year since he moved out...and, I didn't even realize that until I was getting ready for bed that night. I still have moments, and we have had a few arguments over the kids and the OW's role in their lives. She wants to mother them, and I've had to remind him that I'm their mother even when they are at her house.
I pray for him still, and I've reached a place where most days I can pray for her too! I've found a Sunday school class for single parents...rare in my small "Southern" town, and I'm enjoying that.
And, while I've not been able to come back here and help yet, I have had opportunity to be a friend to two women locally who have found their selves in my shoes and didn't know where else to turn. I hope I've provided some hope to them...like you did for me!
I think about you often, and I'll try to check in on you a little more often!!!
Much, much love to you!! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Oh Amy......my sweet daughter! I have missed you so much! In fact, I started crying the minute I saw you had posted. It is just so good to hear from you.
To read what you said about you praying for my family daily.....oh that means more than you could possibly know. Amy, please pray especially for my D b/c she is not doing too good. Her diabetes is very bad. I am very concerned, but God has always taken care of her when nobody else knew how. Maybe that is why you felt something tug at your heart....God knew I needed to hear from you. I guess I will always feel that special bond with you. I wish you were here with me tonight.
Enough about me. I am glad to hear the boys are doing well. It sounds like you've come a long way where OW is concerned. You probably "had" to do that for the boys' sake, but I don't blame you one bit about drawing the line on "who" the mother is! It is amazing how brazen some people are!
I hope having this year behind you will some how help. Are you seeing anyone? There is no rush. Mr. Right is out there and God will get the two of you together (somehow) when the time is right. In the meantime, I know you will enjoy every minute of life....and you should! it. I am proud when you talk about your Church and the people you've helped. Gosh, I do sound as if I'm your mother....lol. But I do feel pride b/c you have never disappointed me. I always felt you would do exactly like you have! You are a blessing to my heart and I'm thankful for knowing you.
Love you sweetie!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hope you are doing well. I have sort of hit a routine with W. I feel we are stuck, even though I know we aren't. Coach has been helping with some great comments.
If you have a chance, I would love to get your thoughts about where my W and I seem to be right now. We are very cordial, W seems to be warming up, but still no signs of affection at all.
Only new development, which really isn't our development, is a friend of my W's recently gave the WAS speech to her H. Her H called me to get my advice. My W does not know I am helping her friend's H. Must be something in the water the W's in our area are drinking!
Hi guys, well just sounding off here. I get a little frustrated when somebody we've worked with just suddenly stops posting. That seems to have happen a lot with people I've posted to....lol. It would be nice to at least know they are alright! Anyway, I'm always glad to hear from all of you.
I was sorry to see Orich leave....but at least it was all good. What do you all think about telling your S about the board? Almost all of them are going to not want you talking about the M. Which....makes sense. Also, I felt that Orich was probably being very honest and open with his W at the retreat this past weekend....and that was probably when he told her about the board. But....then she wanted him to stop. I suppose one would see it as withholding something, but at the same time, would a S "have" to tell if it was your way of getting help? Would you feel that you had to tell your S what was in your journal? Anyway, give me your thoughts.
Thanks
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Personally I would just say that I've come here for support which I have. I was a little surprised that Orich gave up this board so quickly. I think his W must have told him something about if they were to move forward he would have to give up certain things.
If it was an affair sitch, I can see giving up mementos or something, but to give up a sounding board that gave nothing but support the whole time? I wouldn't.
IMO
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Great question and one I've thought about a lot lately. First, I think it is Orich's choice, but not the one for me.
I don't think I would want my W reading my posts, but I am not ashamed of anything I have posted.
I would probably tell her (if asked) what stuck suggested - I came here for support and found a great deal of wisdom that helped me become a much better person and husband. And I think I would keep posting to help others - I owe everyone here at least that much.
