It comes down to your daughter working out that stuff with her mom. The whole new relationship. It's her mom's job to face the music, explain to your daughter how she feels, something for the two of them to work out in a way that works for the two of them.
Trying to fix it for your daughter puts you in the middle of an emotional triangle between her and her mom where in the end, you become the bad guy.
And remember.. the best offense is a good defense.. like her lobbing the blame over to you.
Hey Guys, Everyone has their character flaws and i have to admit that i have been much nicer than i should have been. But today, although I may have been stepped on a little, there is a certain peace that I carry around and my daughter is the beneficiary of it. I am not saying to be a doormat but to pick your battles. Personally, I don't think it is worth it to get worked up over our kid's extracuricular activities. Kerry, if your daughter wants something, she will need to learn to ask for it and not rely on her daddy to take care of it. I know, that is what we do. I don't think we do our daughters any favours by helping them out. I have to hold back constantly....
I find that whenever I stand up to my X and let her know that her words, actions, etc. are inappropriate, she will drop things right away and change her tone.
She's even trying to give me "advice" from time to time and constantly repeats the phrase "I know it isn't any of my business any longer"...
Whenever she does this, I just say "thank you" and drop it. She doesn't like it when I don't respond, but she responds to me very well (not verbally, but w/her actions) when I let her know when she's crossed the line.
I keep in touch with one lady (biomedical lab owner from Malaysia), but there does not seem to be a spark there. It may be because she is just not ready and is enjoying time on her own. But at times she does give the impression she gets lonely. Well, she is on a long trip to spain, so I can focus on others a bit more. I do enjoy being her friend though.
I stopped contact with the Korean lady who owns and runs 2 restaurants. She was just too busy with that along with taking on some others problems.
But lately, I have been emailing a lot and talking with a very nice and pretty 42 year old lady (lawyer for health insurance company) who has a 7 year old daughter half the time. We seem to have a lot in common and we both look forward to meeting. She has no baggage and seems to have her sh!t together. And she is not asian!
And this week another lady has emailed me. She is pretty (I am guessing Latin), but her english does not seem that well. Plus, she has a couple teenagers, she is a devout Mormon and lives a bit to far away in Washington (45 minute drive).
But the most important big development for me is that I bought a 50 degree gap wedge last night. The full swing range between my sand wedge and pitching wedge was too great and I needed something halfway between.
Apart from the P wedge (48) I carry a gap wedge (52), sw (56) and 60 degree wedge. In all honesty, I usually use my 56 degree alot more than the other two.
