Tired of the game

[JCJ]

Hi Guys

Well, I have decided to go an see my solicitor about starting the divorce process. I will be suing for adultery. It is strange, I feel like I finally have 'nothing left to give' my very own stbxh's words two years ago.

I am ok with my decision. I do not want him as part of my life anymore. I do not want to be married to someone who could/ can treat me this way. I deserve so much better and one day better will come along. Perhaps it has already in the form of travels and London life.

I feel happy that I have come to this decision on my own, when the time is right for me. Not because there is anyone else in the picture, not because I have felt pressure from friends or family but because it is right for me. However, I am sad that my marriage has ended. I only ever dreamed that I would get married once and I can honestly say that the man I married was the man of my dreams. Circumstances either changed him or brought out a side that had been hidden. In that way, I have had a lucky escape.

So, the next few months will be hard but then... bring on the future!

[Kalni]

Julia,
coming to a decision you feel good with, is the best thing. I have no doubts you will be happy and content in the near future. Your life is ahead of you.
xxx
K

[MsMelancoly]

I agree, Julia. Only you know when the right time is & you will know & can feel comfortable with getting D. Jody said once to me that as long as there is an ow & your H is still M his relationship can only go so far. In some way it is a comfort zone for him.

Stay strong!

[mishka422]

(((((Julia))))))

I'm sorry that you have had to come to this decision, but at the same time I'm excited for you. This is only the beginning of your new life.

I know you will make the most of the opportunites that come to you and live life to it's fullest.

Keep stepping forward beautiful!

[goodattitudegirl]

Julia,

I don't know what divorce laws are like in your locale, but the next several months will be a winding journey for you. You sound empowered to be initiating this process. It will be very interesting to see how your H responds. You have shown yourself to be beautiful in spirit and strong in your character. Some man will be VERY lucky to have your love someday in the future when the time is right for you.

GAG

[dolphin_05]

Julia, I know that this decision has been a long time coming and it has only been reached after giving so much of your love and care.

Now that you have come to this decision I trust that you will feel great peace and serenity and strength in the knowledge that you will now move on to a bright and happy future.

Cherish the positive memories of days gone by and reach out to embrace the wonderful future that awaits you.

(((((Julia)))))

Cas

[kat727]

I know it wasn't easy getting to this point but I think you will be much better putting this behind you. You have so many great plans for the future, focus on them.

kat

[kat727]

How are you hon? Haven't heard from you in a few days. Hopefully that means you are off having a fabulous time.

kat

[Eskimo Nell]

Hi JCJ
I don't know whether to be happy or sad for you. There are some wise words above my post. I know too that it has taken you a lot of time and pain to reach your decision and I hope in my heart that you are now comfortable with the path that lies ahead.

I predict that your travels are going to open new opportunities for you and who knows, you may yet end up on this side of the equator!

All I do wish is that your heart heals quickly and that the scars do not stop you from loving again - you are a good person and I know that everyone here wishes you peace, joy and so much love. You deserve so much more ...

Fill your boots. (((JCJ)))

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia,
I thought about you when I was away! I wondered if you would come to the 'end of the road' with your H and make this decision, as astrologically.. well I wont bore you, but it signalled endings and new beginnings one way or another. I feel you are doing the right thing and like you said, at your right timing. I suspect he will be trite and nice about it and not contest your reasons for D and hopefully make things easier for you in regards to the process. I imagine you feel disappointed at how things turned out, but like everyone says, wonderful things await you and you have no reason to reproach yourself. Your H has behaved very badly indeed and he will have to square that in himself somehow and always have to live with the knowledge he did wrong by you.
Hugs! Al xxx