Great news on your dad. As for Carrie K, I liked the comment...didn't say SHE was a pearl.
Saving a marriage is an incredible thing and certainly a goal to achieve. Doing it in a way that MAXIMIZES your chances of NOT being hurt again, knowing the high rate of recidivism, really counts.
Just as the LBS is told to be careful about rushing into new relationships, YOU should be careful about taking back a man who as of a few weeks ago, was willing to throw your marriage away for another woman. FEAR...is a powerful tool for the both of you. All of us know that YOU are in good shape AND a good person. NO ONE HERE can say the same about your H.
Be careful.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, I am not taking anyone back. And ... I hear you. Loud and clear.
What I did today (going to the game)was not a coincidence. It was a very well thought move, I set him up and he fell for it. Cant say anything more about it. Not now anyway. Just know that I am VERY careful. And I know what I am doing. And he better shape up, fast! K
"Cool. Now I know the appropriate behavior in response to a death in the family."
See.. now you have to define "death". What does that word mean in your ""
"This is amazing to me. As much as I am a supporter of marriage, this support for a man who has wreaked so much havoc and brought so much damage is a complete surprise to me."
I follow the poster. I have been directed to do so. If I don't I may loose my posting privilege.
At the same time.. I am gonna post what I feel. I am gonna throw some "emotion" at it. Cause that is me.
"On the other hand, my guess is that some of you would be encouraging K in ANY relationship that she would be considering right now. Honestly now, if K were deciding whether or not to jet off to NY to explore a relationship with a new person, wouldn't some of you be encouraging her every bit as strongly?"
Been there.. done that.
Now What?
You are slipping Bill.. things must be good.
"See, I don't think some folks here are exactly pro-K's husband and second chances. I think they just want you to be happy and in a relationship again."
To a point he is the "one". Just ask her. Or just read back on the post's that Lan links. It's all "here".
"Do Work � (Cory)"
See.. you got it right that time.
"Actually my instict says to go ahead and try/do."
Hmm..
"So, I did. Laid out some specific things today and asked for an immediate response, max in a few days."
Fail! It has not worked.. it will not work. You can do better.
You are just "scared".
Its normal. It's expected.
Walk like "YOU" would.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
