I haven't been on the boards in a long, long time...when H moved out of the house my life turned upside down, as most of you can imagine.
H moved back in the house this past June. Things were smooth for a bit until I ran across some haunting e-mails he wrote to OW. In those e-mails I learned he had, in fact, met the OW. He insisted they didn't sleep together...that is until it came out in MC last month.
Icing on the cake...OW pretended to be her H and contacted me thru FB. It didn't take long to realize it was her. Next, she contacted me via e-mail, this time being herself and apologizing for her part in the affair. Within her apology, however, was how heartbroken she was that H broke it off and had he not confessed the affair to me they would still be together.
According to H, he has been trying to break it off for months. He ended up blocking her # from our phones but she still finds ways to call, text and e-mail. It's as if our lives are taking a turn towards "Fatal Attraction".
Meanwhile, H has still not learned to be completely honest. Additionally I can't get the image of the two of them together out of my head.
Sorry if I had anyone worried. Not my intention, just trying to survive. The story isn't over yet.
-Ash
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
I'm so sorry. It sounds like both you and your sister are suffering from the deceit of your husbands, and being taken advantage of for your forgiving nature.
I hope you will use this opportunity to take a much firmer stance with your husband. As for OW, it sounds like you MAY want to talk to an atty about a possible restraining order? Seriously.
Oh Ashlee! I'm sorry this drama is following you. Protect yourself in whatever way you find necessary but know also that we are all here for you!
Thank you Mishka! I continue to protect myself...especially my heart. It's going to be a long road to recovery. Some days it feels like I am on track, other days I just don't know.
I need to do some reading on how to get back on track and piecing it back together. Any suggestions?
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
I hope you will use this opportunity to take a much firmer stance with your husband. As for OW, it sounds like you MAY want to talk to an atty about a possible restraining order? Seriously.
Thanks Puppy. I did think about a restraining order but it appears she has finally stopped. Her last attempt was a few weeks ago via email asking him why it had to end etc... He did not respond.
After he told me of the affair, he finally gave me access to the phone records, which if you remember, he had blocked me from when the A started. That was a big deal as he refused for so long, saying I just wanted to be nosy and "check up on him." Funny thing, in OW emails to him after he exposed the A, she kept referring to my "snooping." Guess those two had that in common...
And, yes, Puppy, it was recently our 18 year anniversary. We were actually both sick on the day so there wasn't much of a celebration.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
