Yes, it does sound like she is obsessed with me doesn't it???
I was looking around Facebook & found out where OW is getting some people who ex used to work with here as friends. This one woman really liked me & knew how much my ex loved me, b/c I talked with her right after he told me he wanted D & she couldn't believe it. She said after all these years that we would still hold hands & everything & she said she knew how much he loved me. But now this OW is befriending her. Oh well, my thought on that is that eventually, I hope, everyone will figure out what she really is. In the meantime, I've decided not to look to see who their friends are on FB, it just bothers me.
I'm doing my best to keep my head up & know that what comes around goes around. Plus if you are that concerned or obsessed about something it could very well come to pass & not how she would like it! Who knows, I'm just trying to do the best I can for now.
This has been a real hard time for me this time of year. I've really had some sad days but I'm doing my best to get out of them & say everyday "Ex, I forgive you". Then concentrate on something else. It doesn't always work that well, but I try!
I hope you had a nice week-end and were able to get some distraction to be less sad.
It would really be best for you if you didn't know anything about what XH and OW do. Try to tell your friends that you'd rather not know what they are up to. I told my XH the same and so far he respected my wish.
I wish you a lovely week and hope your job is not too stressful. (((HUGS)))
Thank you for posting to me! I had an all right weekend, it rained all day on Sunday so that was pretty depressing.
I really don't hear that much from friends regarding xh & ow, this friend was my xh's & it was really strange for him to call. He pretty much told me everything that I thought but didn't know for sure. I am the one being nosy on FB so I'm not going to do that anymore. I will be on there but not look up their names.
I hope you are doing well & still enjoying yourself!
Thanks for checking in on me! I will go to your thread & check out your updates.
I'm ok, a little down tonight. Last weekend was my wedding anniversary, so that was a real downer. I had a family reunion that day so that did keep my mind off of it some. I couldn't do anything at church on Sunday except cry. I had a pretty busy week as I'm getting ready for the CMA Awards.
I'm trying to look at the positive & not think about the neg & what has happened.
nlt, I hope you are feeling better this week. Special events, anniversaries, etc. are triggers that bring us down. I do hope that in time, the hurt will lessen. Give yourself time to heal. You've not been allow to do much of that, i.e., with the correspondence that you have had in the past from your xh and the ow's antics. Also, friends who tell us things that are going in our xs' lives, even the smallest tidbit, will bring you down.
Hi snodderly, Thank you so much!!! I really appreciate it. But, here we go again. Here is the latest email I just got from this OW!! Let me explain first that x & I have a time share, in the D he got it & is supposed to pay maintenance fees so I sent the time share people a letter stating that my name should be off & gave them their email address, my x didn't respond but she sure did! here it is & I'll try to edit the names & such:
(my name)
First, you are well aware that we have no mailing address in the United States. There is also no such email address as xxxxxx@gmail.com. I don’t know where you came up with that. You are welcome to contact xh at xxxxxxxxx.com should you have something worthwhile to communicate.
Secondly, You can provide the letter to (timeshare)– as they requested. There appears to be no need for us to send anything, nor do we intend to. It is also clearly xh’s recollection that you are the one that made the decision to stop paying fees to timeshare a year or more before your separation & divorce. Any credit issues are yours to share. You sending them a copy of the divorce decree should be enough.
Third, please check your spelling and grammar, it is horrendous.
And, please feel free to use the time share condo at any time….It’s doubtful that we’d vacation in Cancun when there are so many amazing beaches right here in Asia. We also really want to stay close to home while our adoption is pending. (So exciting!!) With all that child support (sorry, I mean spousal support) we send to you, you’re bound to have a really great time on vacation and maybe (by some miracle of God) you’d even find someone to date or even marry & support you again!
I hope that you are trying to figure out a way to work and locate a new husband and not continue to live on this child support payment. Even xh's son’s mother received less for the support of an actual CHILD (my name)….and you never stopped giving xh grief over that. Shame on you. I’m not sure how you even live with yourself and the damage you did to their relationship.
Move on (my name) – time is ticking away! Another year of us paying YOU child support and you getting older and living alone…it all seems terribly sad to me. Or you could just keep living vicariously through us….
OW
(BTW – if you do have a roommate that is unrelated to you, your support payments end immediately (male or female). You know (my name) that you would be obligated to report that to us. I am sure that your Christian beliefs would require you to be honest in regard to this point. However, since you were actually willing to break federal laws and lie about it, we don’t hold much hope of you not lying now – and that just proves what a Christian hypocrite you really are).
Just wanted you all to know what kind of person this OW really is, but I think you knew already!!! She is sick & crazy!!!
