Yes BBJ it is! It is completely frustrating. I am frankly at a loss. I did not want this to begin with, and felt that this was supposed to help me move on. And yet, I still can't.
It is the cruelest punishment...to be left in limbo...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Personally I think in both cases (Lola's and BBJ's) it has more to do with giving up that last ounce of control that they think they have over you. It's a mindset of "I don't necessarily want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either."
S4H...I think that is true. Stbx seems to feel that I have control over everything and he has accused me of being controlling. Now, theoretically speaking I realize that we all have some control issues, but I was never really controling until I felt threatened, which was towards the end. Even then, I was not necessarily controlling, but a little more verbal about some things. Regardless, I think you are right that he wants that last little bit of control because his life right now is so out of control.
I just want closure.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Of course, I have a friend whose husband will be doing some business in El Paso, and since she is very knowledgeable in the legal field, she will serve him. It just seems like it is a total pain in the asstek to have this going on. I mean, the work is done. It is filed. Why drag it out? If he would waive the service, it would be finished faster.
I have never been through this. I mean, when it is over, it should just be over. I understand the need to fight and to try to resolve the marital issues, but if you are not going to, why drag it out?
Damn psycho pain in my butt piece of sh!t jerk.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I hope your drama ends soon. My first thought is that he is just pretty much oblivious. Being a guy, and all. But his immigrations status always makes me wonder if there's another motive.
Me too. Although I am not sure, because I am not his sponsor. His ex wife is. I would have thought he would have stayed married to her, rather than me. I have nothing to do with his immigration.
And yet, I wonder if in his mind it just looks better for him to be married. I helped him fill out his paperwork, and I did put my separate address on the paperwork, so immigration would know we werent together...
I just don't get it.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
