Got up this morning and took a 60 mile bicycle ride. When I got back I had received an E-mail from her...
"Sorry it took me so long to send you an email on parent/teacher conferences. I talked with all of D's teachers except her science teacher who was not there. Every one of them said she was doing really good and has A's so far this 2nd 9 weeks. I talked with all of S's teachers except his vocal music teacher. His math teacher ooh'd and ahh'd over him and he's making an A. His science, history, and English teachers said he's doing ok but could do better b/c they know what he's capable of. Said he sometimes shuts down (as his teachers have said in the past) and has good days and not so good ones. But, this past week S said he had really been doing better so I hope me talking to them and him has helped as it did in the past. He is so smart, but sometimes his self-esteem (or lack of) gets in his way.
The kids said you had to work Thanksgiving. Would you mind if they at least came over to eat lunch. I was gonna cook and send them my dressing, candied yams, corn casserole (at their request) over when I thought you were off. So, I'll have plenty. You could bring them over on your way to work or I could go get them that morning. I would really enjoy it.
Also, as I'm sure they have mentioned we're going to my mom's on Friday. Would you mind if I picked them up that morning to head that way? They are out of school on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. I would really appreciate it and I know my family would too!
Oh and D has her band "winter concert" on Monday, Nov 30 at 7:00 at the Concert Center.
We have the best kids...all three, of course!!
W"
And I'm still working on some more of these incredibly invasive 'discovery questions' that her attorney is asking of me.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Thanks Kevin. First time in nearly 2 decades we haven't had Thanksgiving together.
Ditto, There's a lot of that goin' 'round today.
Happy Thanksgiving, guys.
Ditto here. Had Thanksgiving with my mom at her retirement home. It is very nice and the restaurant/dining room has a five-star rating, so the food was delicious. But if WAW hadn't walked away, we would all have been eating together with her family - a big family - a very loving and wonderful bunch of people who love me and Mom. Couldn't get that picture out of my mind. Very, very hard. Had to keep reminding myself to be thankful that at the age of 50 I still have a healthy mother and that I could share that time with her.
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
Thanks Kevin. First time in nearly 2 decades we haven't had Thanksgiving together.
Ditto. The first time me and my W haven't had thanksgiving together in 12 years. It sucks.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I've followed yuor thread from the beginning. You've come a long way since that first post in terms of growth. I know you know this.
My prayers for you, your wife, kids and family.
Thanks. Yeah, I have come a long way since that first post in terms of growth! I see things differently, I think about things differently, and I feel differently about things. I am no longer angry, resentful, and abusive. And I am more compassionate. I do know that.
Unfortunately, I wasn't able to bust the divorce or save the marriage. And I appreciate your prayers. Thanks.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
One of my friends sent me a text tonight that said..."Pain is a lens, sometimes focusing, other times blurring the events of our lives. It all depends upon the distance."
The distance from the causative event. When you're close to the pain, it blurrs. When you're farther from the pain (via time), it focuses.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
