I have to believe that these people were there...all the while ... or perhaps they changed gradually but we chose not to notice...or maybe they hid it well or we made them better people for a while. Stay away from the past, we can not change it and God knows must of us get stuck for longer than we like. Your kids seem to be doing great...now let's concentrate on getting LK a little holiday romance!
I am not sure the best way to explain this phenomenon, but it is all too common. People in our little town would never believe the things Dan has done, but I won't tell them anyway, it isn't their business!
Although two of my male cousins told me a couple weeks ago (at my other cousin's 30th bday party, so they were inebriated!) "You know, Dan always kind of seemed like a d!ck. Like he thought he was better than us. And no offense but you kind of pulled away from the family when you were together. We missed you and we're glad to have you back"...
So sometimes, the changes can wind up being for the better, for us, even if we don't like the process...
I dont really think about it much. I guess the only thing that bugged me some is that I should have gone with monthly spousal support payments instead of buying her out of alimony for $40,000. But, they may have decided to not get married while the alimony was coming in over the next 5 years.
I have learned to rarely believe anything she tells me. For instance, she told me that she would never ever get married again.
Kerry, Did you at least offer to be "Best Man" or to "give away the bride" ? Where's your chivalry? At least you paid for the wedding!?
He can have her. I may have paid for the wedding, but he has to pay for maintenance and upkeep. Failure to do that will result in whining.
That is a funny song. The lady I met last night mentioned something last night about her mom's past transgression when her mother was younger in Vietnam. Apparently her sister has a different daddy. An American GI and that her sister found out about him when she was 20 and they re-united and fell in love as long lost father and daughter.
She really loved the Hot Pot. She had never heard of that kind of food before. And she really wants to bring her mother there now. It makes me feel good that I introduced her to something new and exciting. I need to start taking S9 there more often when I pick him up from Chinese class as the owner is from Taiwan, which is what he learns (traditional characters).
As for the meetup - she is a nice lady with beautiful big eyes, but there seems to be something missing in chemistry. I cant put my finger on it and I dont think I will be emailing her again.
She did say that the prior 4 guys she met were nice in email, but had only one thing in mind when meeting - hookups. Stupid men.
I don't want a hookup, or I would say that on my profile, duh! I did get 'favorited' by a man looking for 'discreet sexual encounters'.....ick! Blocked that sucker ASAP!
However, I am curious as I have been out of the dating pool for a while...is there a rule of thumb on kissing? I am not a big fan of it on the first date b/c that tends to encourage the 'hookup'-hunters out there....beyond that I am clueless.
It took 5 months with bf # 1 (high school) and 6 weeks/5 dates with bf #2 (Dan, also high school). Then there were several first kisses in college, but they were not on 'dates'... just guys I had known all through college and flirted with sporadically, then we kissed after a night at the bar or a party...
Not trying to hijack Kerry just looking for the male POV!
Sorry you didn't feel a spark, but you do have me curious about HotPot!
hmm....no chemistry in the first meeting....I wonder if chemistry can grow?
What I found with the on-line stuff (i am not talking about you here Kerry) is that it is very easy to meet someone once and then go back to the drawing board.
BBJ, I am kind of old fashioned. I do not think that I would kiss on a first date unless there is some real attraction. However, what is interesting about online dating is that you can get to know the person pretty well via text messaging (or IMing) or phone calls. So at times it does not really feel like a first date.
Hot Pot or Suki Yaki is a lot of fun and is very healthy food. I especially like the spicy Ma La broth if I have the sniffles.
I am not a first date kisser. In fact, it has to feel natural, come as a surprise and not be planned. I forced myself to do the first kiss with the last girl friend because she had expressed disappointment that I had not tried to kiss her.
I am in no rush and my idea is to find someone with whom I am compatible, where there is chemistry but also friendship, who shares some of my interests, and who has left their baggage at the door. Jumping into intimacy too early could be a big mistake.
just guys I had known all through college and flirted with sporadically, then we kissed after a night at the bar or a party...