For the record, things are fine with my cousin. As I've said a few times now, I am very appreciative and she knows it. She is just very intitailly over-reactive at times, and that's fine, she thinks with her heart and it is big. Add in an Irish temper and, well, enough said.
Ron, I hear ya. Even though we're concealed for the most part around the boys, you can't help but deny the feeling in the room. They both know that despite all that has occured, all the while, I felt for her and she felt for me. Again enough said.
The coming weeks present the neccessary challenges needed for XW to demonstrate that she is in fact ready for the long haul. I may have let my emotions show a bit too much and I guess to some look like a fool. That is fine. When it's all said and done and these challenges are overcome in the fasion I'm certain she shall handle them, I will have my answers and be validated.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
There's a little too much manly love on this thread.
When she moved your hand, that's beautiful. I had that happen when W visited in October. That gives me hope even now that she's seems to be steaming towards the D.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
There's a little too much manly love on this thread.
Naaah, you're just late to the party sweetcheeks.
Well, a very interesting weekend by far.
Friday night, off to a really bad start. I was going to go grocery shopping and then pick up (x)W and kids and for dinner, then she calls and says S12 isn't home yet and is getting nervous. Aparently he and S11 got in to a fight (again ) and he took off. Suffice it to say, I went into ultra-dad mode and scoured the neighborhood for him, found him, where I'd thought I'd might, at the train station. He tried bolting from me. I'll tell you, it takes A LOT to get me to run.
So, wrangled him up, brought him back to (x)W's. She was distrought from this, hadn't showered yet. I told her go take a shower, I'll handle S12, it may be "your" house, but now it's on MY time, and dad's on the timeclock. She was content on that, she could never discipline them right, so it must have been a major relief to have me setting him staight. S12 aparently also hit her the night before, then stereoed a nice "F you" to S11 of which he received some dire repremanding.
When it was all said and done, I couldn't help but watch (x)W prep the bathroom for her shower, like old times. She can be so graceful to watch in motion. Then we made the mistake. (x)W said she didn't have much beer to offer while I wait and asked if I'd like some wine instead.
Crap, booyah, instant reminder the wine IMMEDIATELY goes to my head and puts my emotions in a flux.
As I'm in the doorway still watching her prep up for a shower, her cell phone is constantly going off. She'd look at the display and tuck it away. After like the 4th time in 5 minutes, my tongue couldn't take it anymore and told her to not even try and say it isn't OM. She confirmed. I asked what the friggen deal was. She said "he's in one of his modes and won't stop". I pointed out that THIS is exactly what I was talking about and hwy he needs to go. Long story short we had a hour long OM "fight" although it was much diferen (more repsectful) than any "fight" we've EVER had. I guess we've learned to quarrel with caution? Anyway, it finally ended when (x)W finally told him to stop calling, get the picture and leave her alone.
we went and dinner, was great after the rough time, but (x)W again made some off comment, and away we went again. We did end up resolving the issues and we hung out a bit at her place beofre I took the kids by me for my weekend.
The next day, heh. OM had the audacity to give her sh!t all day long at work for being at dinner with me and her kids, and a whole bunch of ludicris crap, then the dumbnut tell HER not to ever talk to him again. lol, what a putz. Of course, (x)W had NO qualms with that request. So she was out a ride in that respect, but, then even better, he got fired.
Suffice it to say, I'm very much relieved. And I do believe that starting tonight, she will begin to comply with transparency with her phone. They now have no reason to be in contact.
And man oh man. I am loving (x)W version 2.0. All weekend long she randomly like "sext" messaged me, even today already. Man, can't get enough of that.
We're going shopping together tonight after I get out of work. When I saw her this morning dropping the boys off, heh, I just wanted to maul her. Going to have to work on that. Kind of blows we couldn't "make up" after the arguement Friday night. But suffice it to say, we survived conflict. And even the conflict it'self was entirely different from anyway we've ever had prior. And, bottom line, challenge number 1 of these upcoming weeks, she's handled with flying colors. Good riddence OM.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Two boys, 11 and 12. How on earth is she going to discipline them without her husband around?
Exactamundo! She's also seen the light from what I tried to tell her when the whole S went down to think clearly on what she was about to do, they're along for the ride as well. Well, some like to learn to the hard way they say.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
There's a little too much manly love on this thread.
The next day, heh. OM had the audacity to give her sh!t all day long at work for being at dinner with me and her kids, and a whole bunch of ludicris crap, then the dumbnut tell HER not to ever talk to him again. lol, what a putz. Of course, (x)W had NO qualms with that request. So she was out a ride in that respect, but, then even better, he got fired.
Be careful. She needs to gain your trust. You might want to verify things, especially, if it comes from the XW.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
Suffice it to say, I'm very much relieved. And I do believe that starting tonight, she will begin to comply with transparency with her phone. They now have no reason to be in contact.
Yup, gotcha SG, loud and clear.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
) and he took off. Suffice it to say, I went into ultra-dad mode and scoured the neighborhood for him, found him, where I'd thought I'd might, at the train station. He tried bolting from me. I'll tell you, it takes A LOT to get me to run. 
