These emails upset me at first but then I have to stop & realize that I still threaten her & they are in another country! The grass is not always greener on the other side.
I don't know for sure but I have a feeling my ex is not very happy.
and even though the OW acts as if all is great somewhere inside it must affect her and all of them they still participapted in the breakup of a family they slept with a M man we are all instructed that is wrong from a young age it is against religion and society they feel it too karma there is no way to escape it she fights her own demons somewhere inside she knows what she did my xh ow wife 28, called me maybe 2 months ago it was BS, no reason to call first time I ever spoke to her she wanted to explain things.like.she doesnt get high I also felt she wanted to clear the air she was now his wife so that made her legitimate?? I told her I couldnt talk to her she asked when can we talk I said NEVER so she walked away knowing the truth- she did wrong I will not befriend her I was not granting her permossion to steal my xH I will work on forgiveness for my own healing and benefit not for hers we will not be friends peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Wow! OW sure do have a lot of nerve, don't they? Crazy!!! Well, that is exactly what I have been trying to do is work on forgiveness. Not necessarily forgiving the OW but forgiving my XH. In my case, the OW is crazy & I believe has some major mental problems, so in some ways I guess I feel sorry for her.
I think you did the right thing by telling that OW that you would never be able to talk to her, she did wrong & she will pay for it eventually.
I think this all will come back to haunt these OW, but with the OW my ex is with since she is a sociopath I'm not sure she will even know it.
I do hope & pray that my ex gets away from her before she damages him really bad, physically or mentally. And, I do hope & pray they do not get a child, children need more stablility & love than this woman knows how to give.
N, This is your time, your time to focus on you and what you need to do in order to help yourself heal and live your life to the fullest.
I know that you are worried about your xh, but you need to step back even more and allow God to work on him. The crazy wife will have to hang herself in all of this and you cannot be an active participant in this little game of pin the tail on the xh.
I truly believe she knows that you are still very much attached to your xh mentally and it's driving her nuts. If you can find a way to not allow her to get to you, all the better. Also, I'm going to suggest that when your friends/xh's friends bring the subject up of her and what they are doing, you will to nip the conversation for a while. Something is up and the drama in her arena has escalated and I do not think it's being done all by itself.
Call me an old fool, but when someone brings gossip to my door, my sensors go up because the old saying "a dog that brings a bone, will carry one". Be selective in what you say to those friends that chat about your xh and the wife.
Enjoy your weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know God is watching over this situation & I cannot worry about it b/c there is not anything I can do.
I have not been in touch with xh friend anymore since he was here in the US. Him & his wife will not have any more to do with my ex until he gets rid of this OW, so I have a feeling I've heard from OW since they have. But, that is great advice & I tried to be very careful when I spoke to them & was selective in what I said. If I do hear from them I don't think it will be about ex or ow, they can't stand OW! His wife & I like to exchange recipes.
I think when I first get these emails, it does upset me but that is when I think how much I'm in her mind & if she wasn't so insecure about me, then she wouldn't have to write those nasty emails.
Thank you for your advice & support, I really do appreciate it!!!
I know it has been a while since I've been on here but there hasn't really been anything new to report up until now. I've received another email, it looks like it was sent to a bunch of different people but the OW seems to have to include me. Here it is with edits on name changes:
We hope that you and yours are happy and well this Holiday Season! Saibadee! 2009 is nearly over.and what a year it was for us! We remain in awe of the opportunity to live and work overseas, and appreciate the chance to move back to Laos from Thailand last August. Vientiane not only meant an amazing new job for (ex).but a very exceptional expat lifestyle that we definitely were not experiencing in Southern Laos. The network is awesome.the city and the people are great.we're excited and doing wonderful! Our biggest news item for 2009 was the change of location & job..the addition to our family of "Angie" the little [censored].I mean Shitzu..(ex's brother) traveling from the US to visit us in Chaing Mai (so much fun!).(ow friend) coming to Laos and then Thailand (so cool!).and (ow friend) meeting up in Thailand for an awesome dive adventure!(unbelievably GREAT!)/ The end of November took us back to the US for a couple of weeks of marathon visiting & marathon shopping! We had a wonderful time seeing family and friends in Nashville, Murray, & New Orleans. The older we get..the more the "jet lag monster" hangs around - OUCH! This time the 35+ hours of travel hurt!!! We've decided.over 50 means OVER 35+ ECONOMY SEATING!! We'll definitely upgrade those corporate return tickets from now on! We're about ready to shock some of you that aren't aware.but 2010 brings yet another chapter to our lives & another new member to our family..she hasn't arrived yet - but we'll let you know when she does! Yes (as some lovely [blunt] person actually commented. he he :))we're a little "long in the tooth", but we're adopting a Lao baby in 2010. More to come! All of our love & best wishes this holiday season..and as always..your invitation to visit STANDS! Plan a trip to Asia in 2010! Love,(ow, ex, & 2 dogs)
So, what do you all think??? Personally I think this woman is messed up. When we found out that I couldn't have kids, my ex told me that it didn't matter as long as we were together & had each other. Something doesn't sound right there & also, they have only been in that country about a year. Adoption, that quick???
I just want to gag! I have a cousin who does the exact same thing and when it all comes to light...it's nothing but rubbish and she's as ordinary as they come. They want everyone to think that they are leading this high and mighty life, but truth be told, it's totally the opposite.
As for the baby, it could be a black market child, but who knows what is going on over there. Things could be different and if you are living over there, the residential time might be different from being in the States and adopting a foreign baby. I pity the poor child.
Again, she's sticking it to you. Do not react and do not allow this rubbish to take up head room. Let it go.
What are you planning for the holidays?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
