Cutter, you got through it! Your niece is sweet.And it sounds like you ended the night on a positive even though this is probably the hardest thing any of us have dealt with (the A).
One more holiday to go before 2010... (at least in the USA)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
On christmas they opened all my presents infront of Ladybug. So she got to watch that. And my neice went on and on how I got her a cool present. FIL did not speak to her once during the whole day. She was moody the whole day. And left in a huff after dinner.
He also mentioned that she is pressuring SIL to stop having the kids see me. And SIL and neice got in a fight with her over it.
Guess the whole family acceptance is not going according to plan. Who would have guessed that adultery would not be accepted ????
This made my day.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
All of what you explained was the next best Christmas present for a year like this!!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Cutter, sorry, I assumed the best present would have been reconciliation. Unless I am projecting my wishes onto you!
Sorry to leave you hanging, Cutter! I slacked on my thread replies yesterday!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Request to Meet - Please respond by December 31st.
Hi Cutter,
I hope you're well and had a nice Christmas, all things considered. Can you please let me know your availability the week of January 4th? I'd like to sit down with you to discuss several loose ends that we need to tie up, including the separation agreement and plans for the house. I'm not making any demands on you, I just want to get an idea of what your intentions are.
Is friend still staying there? Have you done (or do you have plans for) any further renovations?
Please reply to my e-mail, or contact me by phone. My cell number is the best place to reach me. xxx-xxx-xxxx.
Thanks, Ladybug
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Ya, gee... whodda thought adultery would not be accepted? Further evidence of the fogged out alien brain!
So, what are you going to do about the email? Have you still been dark? At the very least, leave her hanging a few days while you think it out, make the best plan for you and what you need right now.
And its not even a thursday... First contact from her since 10th of December...
I figured she would come at me for after newyears... Email next week after the holidays. Did not expect one during the holidays.
Wonder if she will remember there is an IM ?
Nice that she hopes I am well and had a nice christmas.... yea....
I will think I will drop the hint with her parents that friend went back to work on his marriage because he realized that he was playing the irresponsible role of a cad than face up to a "mid-life crisis," or disappointments in his life.
That he would do the real work, being honest with his wife about marital problems, All of which require the strength of character and integrity that have gone missing from ladybug. He got back into reality and is dealing with what's really wrong.
Sorry for the ramble.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Further evidence of the fogged out alien brain!