I would answer my kid's question with age appropriate answers, treating it matter of factly. No big deal, just a simple response. They're going to learn it, might as well be from you so you can make sure they have the correct understanding. It was pretty embarrassing to find out my 'china' was really a vagina, that 'administration' was menstruation.
What's a virgin? A woman who hasn't had sex/made love/ etc. I remember while reviewing the 10 Commandments in CCD, the kids asked me what adultery was. They were probably in fourth or fifth grade. That was fun. "Imagine a Mr. Smith wanting to that 'married stuff' with someone other than Mrs. Smith." I made an icky face and the kids said.. Ewwwww. Little did I know!
Got a neat compliment. Was called the 'voice of reason'. Made me feel good to be to look at the big picture when the little picture was full of static. Like I've learned and can apply stuff.
You know, you can have the admin change your handle name from Gypsy to "The_Voice_of_Reason". Jeff (Virtually_Handsome) had his name changed from Dry_Heat.
As a single mom I had to teach my two boys how to pee standing up and, one morning that has been blazed in my memory...to tell my tearful little guy that his peewee wasn't going to be stuck up like that forever and he just needed to stop touching it
parents have to be ready to answer those questions without too much fanfair or embarassment...otherwise they will learn not to ask and I certainly don't want my boys learning the facts of life in the locker room in middle school or the playground in elementary school
a virgin is someone who hasn't had sex sex is something two people do who are in love in love is a wonderful feeling you get like when you really really like something yes you can have a Christmas cookie before lunch
You could have answered your boy like in the cialis ad...
"An erection that lasts over 4 hours should be reported to a physician, right away. "
Thanks for the sex talk tips figgy. I do need to consider some age appropriate answers. Good lord, I definitely am not prepared for "dad, what is a vibrator?"
It's a plactic thingy that shakes or quivers(you pick since it is based on the speed). You know kids don't put that much thought into it. They just have a question. Sure it may lead to another but usually ends there.
My parents were great with me and the "sex" talk. Mom spent a couple hours one Saturday explaining everything. Next weekend, Dad gave me his take and then the 3rd Saturday they both sat with me to see if I had questions or to cover anything they forgot. What words did they say...beats me I was a kid. But I do remember that they cared enough to get me the facts before I was old enough to know all about it from my friends. Oh I forgot to mention, I had just turned 10.
blessings, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I suppose the boy is getting to that age to learn about the rooster, the hen and the eggs. Especially considering that XW got both kids their own cell phones for Christmas. I did not have my first cell phone until I was 40!
the big key is to answer any questions as plainly as possible.
kids don't get analogies and euphamisms
just the facts ma'am
and remember to answer the actual question
My son asked me what we were doing in the bedroom that made so much noise and I thought back to the night before and went into a national geo answer he then said oh I thought you were hanging a picture up just now (head slap)
When I was a kid, I "found" a book on the coffee table - one of those Time/Life books called "How Babies Are Made" that was illustrated with all these paper cut-out illustrations of dogs and chickens and people. It felt really illicit when I found it and I used to look at it and try to figure things out.
LOL - 15 years later I finally realized my parents "planted" it so that I could answer my own questions and they didn't have to have the talk! All that time I'd thought it was a book that had been carelessly left out.
Oh I forgot to mention, I had just turned 10.