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[Yoyowife]

Hi Mattie,
I had a nice Christmas with my daughters with all the trimmings. We went out of town on Thanksgiving. The girls on the way home requested we stay home for Christmas for my cooking...lol. Gotta love them!

How was your Christmas? It's time for an update young lady, haven't heard from you in a while.

I had a nice quiet New Years Eve with Mr. A. We cooked steaks and had a champagne toast at midnight.

[NoCodeBlues]

Happy New Year, Yoyo. Sounds like you're off to a good start.

[Yoyowife]

Good Morning All,

Hope you all are staying warm in this deep freeze! My first day back at school and boy, is it cold!

I have to share a sweet story on Mr. A. Snow is forecast for our area Wednesday and Thursday, which is rare in the deep south. He was at a store yesterday and called me. He wanted to make sure I had an ice scraper and de-icer for my car. He said he would pick it up for me. Yes, a very small gesture, but a very sweet one. I'm not used to someone worrying about me!

[Lotus]

Happy to hear that, Yoyo. i'm cold here in S. Florida too.

[kat727]

About time someone is thinking of you! School starts back tomorrow here, the kids are not thrilled. lol Of course I get to get back up erlier again so I guess I am not so thrilled either. lol

Man is is cold out. I don't think the snow has any chance of melting any time soon.

kat

[Yoyowife]

I've seen lot's of stories on here about how friends and family deal with the OP. Some seem to embrace them and some seem to shun them. Let me share my latest experience with you.

My STBXH and his cousin have always been more like brothers than just cousins. He and his wife got married the same year we did. As a result we have always been very close. His wife is like a sister to me. Our children are very close. She of course has been very upset by all of this. For a long time STBXH didn't have much to do with his cousin. The cousin tries to fly under the radar, but his wife makes it clear how she feels about the situation. The cousin doesn't condone what STBXH did and has told me so, but still blood is thicker than water. Cousin is still very good to me though. The wife and I still do lots of things together.

On new years eve the cousin and wife were going to the casino to spend the night. Another couple was going with them. Another distant cousin, I never knew him, called and asked to join them and that STBXH and OW wanted to join them also. My friend (cousin's wife) was less than thrilled.

A few days before the trip STBXH and cousin were hunting. Yes, the OW was there also, they can't seem to let each other out of their sights ( a trust issue, perhaps?). STBXH pulled cousin to the side before the OW got finished hunting and said he needed to talk to him before she came back. He asked his cousin how his wife was handling them coming along for the trip. He also stated that the OW was nervous cousin's wife might say something to her. These were the cousin's words:

"You made this choice to be with her. If you are happy with her, that's fine. My wife will be fine, she will not be rude to her. Just like if Yoyo brings a man to my house I will not be rude to him. But, don't expect wife to act like she is glad to see her and become good friends with her. Women hold grudges for a long time. She will be civil to her, but not act all excited to see her, that's not going to happen."

I was very pleased the cousin stood up for his wife and me. I think STBXH was expecting him to say that everything would be just fine and dandy with no repercussions. It's like he just thinks everyone should just accept her and erase me out of their lives. It's kind of hard to erase 25 years of friendship.

By the way the trip ended up falling through.

[kat727]

He must have wanted everyone to adore her or something. They so do not live in the real world. I have to admit, I am glad the trip fell through.

kat

[Matilda2]

It is easier for me now that I am in a different state than exH and OW. I no longer need to worry about running into them as a couple. However, I was feeling a bit blue with Christmas cards until some good friends that I thought were "writing me off" did send me a Christmas message. No matter if friends say they aren't going to take sides the relationships still change. Hope 2010 is a good year for you, Yoyo!

[Yoyowife]

I got this in an email. I thought it was great and wanted to share with you all.

HANDBOOK 2010

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Pray.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2009.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13.. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about, I just did.

[kat727]

I think I am going to print it off and post it! Thanks so much for sharing. You have at least one of your 3 people smiling.

kat