True, I am so happy to see that you are enjoying life a bit and not taking the dating game seriously. When the right man comes along, you will know it.
As for your xh, it's nice to see that you can have a pleasant email correspondence w/o him asking for money.
Send the rain our way...we need it! Enjoy your week.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for your kind words. I also hope that XH will not suddenly start to mention any money again. He continues to send me jokes and I reply with something funny. I am also glad that he cheered up a bit and we can have a normal "conversation" again.
"Mr. Too-good-to-be-true" did reply. I met him this evening. He seems to be quite a nice person and likes his job. We had an enjoyable evening but really speaking he is not terribly exciting. We will probably meet again to do something together but I cannot see him being "my new man".
As you said I am not taking the dating game seriously. As you said I will know when the right man comes along. So far he hasn't but I'd rather not have a man than one that I don't particularly like or who annoys me.
I am sorry but I cannot send you any rain. We need it ourselves - LOL.
It sounds like your XH is still very interested & cannot quite let go. I'm so glad you are able to get out & enjoy yourself! I think that is great, no expectations.
OMG - I haven't posted for quite a while! I didn't expect it to be so long.
The last thing I read was DavidA's thread and I am like him, I feel so depressed when I read the posts. That's why I haven't come by for a while.
I have been sad and mad at my XH lately. After we had a nice correspondence going a few weeks ago he started again about returning the money. So I just stopped writing to him. He didn't give up and wrote at least once a week but I went dark. In the end he wrote that he missed my mails and wouldn't mention the money again. Life was just too short and we had just too many years together to fall out over money. What was money compared to human feelings? He really couldn't see that we should have no contact for the rest of our lives, just because of money. He needs to know I am OK. For him to not allow me to turn to him if I needed advice would not be something he was happy with.
I sent him a brief reply that I agreed. After that I didn't hear from him for about a week after which he wrote that he was travelling. He sent season's greetings to me and my family!
Re my dating I met a few more guys who were very insignificant. I have almost given up but not quite. I will meet two more guys in January and I wrote to one who has the same interests as I.
I am still going out a lot either with friends or on my own.
I will spend Christmas with my family and for New Year's Eve I am going out with some of my girlfriends.
That's all folks! I would like to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I hope that you are doing well despite your sitch. Take care my friends.
Hi True, Well, it appears that your xh is like mine....always wanting something and doesn't want to face the fact that divorce means "that's all folks" in the department of money and other things. I'm glad you have learned the fine art of going dark/dim w/him. But, I can assure you, he'll be asking again very soon. It's called "if I badger her enough, she'll give in". Don't do it.
Let's hope that he can be a friend and not one that is manipulative and a bully. I think you know how to handle him now.
As for the dating scene....you'll have another year of enjoying the company of the opposite sex and who knows...you just might meet someone you really enjoy being in the company of.
I'm glad to see that you are spending Christmas w/family.
Merry Christmas and may 2010 bring you lots of fun and many adventures!
I do hope my XH will not ask for the money again but somehow I also have the feeling he will do it again. However, I will be prepared. Be assured that I will not give in. Every time he wrote about it I just had to think of all the things he did to me! And yes, I learnt the hard way to deal with it.
Thank you for your wishes for 2010. I also wish you a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year.
So glad to hear from you & thank you for posting to my thread. I'm like you, I haven't been on there much, sometimes it's very depressing. But I do miss all my friends on here. I'm going to try to do better about getting on here more & checking up on people more.
Glad you had a Merry Christmas with family, so did I. I've been reading a book a friend loaned me called, "Become A Better You" by Joel Osteen, very good book. I'm trying to be more positive.
I do wish a wonderful 2010, it has to get better!!!
