need help fast

[newmama]

So what happened? Did you mean that you saw H and OW coming back to your house last night?

Look one of the reasons why I have "stayed so patient" is also because WH is not rubbing the A in my face! If he ever starts to do that you all will be seeing/hearing a different side to me! I DO NOT TOLERATE BULLYING (cake eating I guess, LOL! poking fun at myself) So it INFURIATES me when I hear others' WS doing this to them!

Now I always think "legal" (even though I am not a lawyer)when it comes to the house. Do youknow if legally he can have access to your house? Do you know if there is something in the law where you live that says if the spouse walks away from the house, you get to be the primary owner? Is changing the locks legal?

I ask all of this because I want you to be able to tell him when he can come to the house, if at all.
Man, ideally you could take all of his crap and put it in the garage or the front lawn, etc OR A STORAGE FACILITY that you rent for just the first month and let him know his things are there. Now the cons to packing up his crap is that YOU will have to do the physical labor. The pros are that you take control and remove a reason for him to come to the house (except to pick up your kids but you can also arrange for him to do that in a separate location)

Ok the other thing you can do if the above is too much is that if you see him coming over, LEAVE. This is not ideal but at the same time it will spare you the pain of having to see that woman.

[courageous wife]

Thanks to you guys for helping me when I was panicking! I will continue my thread in newcomers and peek in on you all! I wish only the best to all of you!

[courageous wife]

Hi newmama! I completely missed your last reply! Too much "fun" tonight I guess!

After I calmed down, I called H. I asked if he had gotten what he needed from the house and he said that he had seen me and that yes, he had. I asked him who was with him and he stammered "who do ya think" and I told him that I was uncomfortable with OW knowing where we live and he replied that he didn't think that should be a problem...then got a little defensive and said that they only went into the garage, not the house. I repeated that I was uncomfortable with her being at MY house and that it was totally disrespectful of him to bring her to MY house and aske him if he was prepared to explain in the event that he ran into one of our neighbors? He stammered and said he understood and would not do it again!

Locks got changed today for the house. I am trying to decide on if/when I should take the truck away for H. It was my Dad's, we inherited it...in my state...it is mine!

I don't know newmama about if it is legal to come here if he walks out. I know that it is no fault, 50/50 unless it is an inheritance. I have had a consultation with a lawyer...if I retain her, it is $1500 which would not be returned IF we would work things out...