You have a RIGHT to know. It is ok and the right thing to do. The TRUTH of what is going on is a must. Yes, it hurts to the core and I understand that.
I know you are supposed to meet tomorrow. The problem is that this is so fresh in your mind that it will be very very difficult for you to not make numerous mistakes at the meeting.
One of the things that I have seen work to end affairs in the past is for the betrayed spouse to expose the affair. By exposing, I mean exposing it to HIS wife. He is more than likely lying to his wife AND to your wife. He may be telling your wife he is leaving his wife. That is normal for a married man to tell his affair partner. Your wife probably believes that. If you expose it to his wife you could blow this affair out of the water. If he is lying to your wife, and his wife finds out, he may very well drop your wife like a hot potato. She would then probably give your relationship another chance. I have seen that happen many times. I think it is worth the risk. If he is going to leave his wife, then you have lost nothing anyway right?
She IS having an affair with him on the internet. The guy is married and is running away from a terrible marriage. She's promised my wife, he is leaving his.
I learn this through a friend in common.
My wife is starting to miss me and feels alone because she can't talk to this guy about the things she can talk to me about. She is NOT in love. She says she is taking care of herself first. She misses me sometimes. And the guy is dealing with such dark things in his marriage that some times is too hard for her to keep up with.
She intends that next saturday would be the FINAL talk with me. When she tells me everything and ends the marriage.
Ok, That's an update. Pls I do need some opinions, pls. I'm falling apart.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
I know you are supposed to meet tomorrow. The problem is that this is so fresh in your mind that it will be very very difficult for you to not make numerous mistakes at the meeting.
Not tomorrow, in one week. She plans to tell me it's over definitely.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
We're supposed to talk on the phone tomorrow to arrange for us to meet next week!!!! Should I cancel that? Man... I need to re read DR.
I feel terrible right now. Sorry.
blow her off. and do something alot more fun then reading divorce busting. maybe watch a movie about coral reefs. take notice of how many fish are in the sea.
I didn't say his wife knows. I just said I can't be sure if she knows or have any contact with her o know who she is.
Im just telling you that he said to her that he was letting her wife know.
Also, it's worth noticing that her best friend followed the same pattern 4 years ago. She divorced badly, started a relationship with a married man and now 4 years after that she's leaving the country cos she can't get over the fact that the guy neer left the wife and he is expecting a second baby with the wife.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
