Sorry, Im also really confused. Should I tell her I know? should I ask her ? She's saying to this friend she's starting to miss me but she's still hurt. The friend says other people have been advicing her to remember all the negative stuff when she misses me.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
why tell her anything. why even bother talking to your wife. if you are convinced she is screwing around and that next week she was going to dump you why give her the satisfaction? would you cry in front of her? tell her to f off and storm away? or laugh in her face?
despite what alot of people say on this site, its not about her. ITS ABOUT YOU!. and despite the pain and the heartache you might be feeling now, YOU WILL GET OVER IT. the sooner the better. the sooner the better.
think about the coral reef analogy. some fish are pretty. some are even prettier. some are blue. others red. some are good to eat on a friday night. some bite and others bony. whens the last time you had some tuna?
I think you know everything there is to talk about. what more is there to learn? why bother putting yourself through it? why even think about it? spend all night toss and turning and hitting on a bottle of jack? ill.
there are alot of fun things to do on a friday night! find some friends to take you out. if you were your wife and she just found out and called her friends, i wouldn't doubt they be yelling, 'dump that loser lets go out and find you a new guy' and she would be out having a good time, excellent time forgetting all about you.
or you can pine away on this site for months and not get on with your life or even get to a point to where you can effectively start working on putting your relationship back together.
if you were your wife and she just found out and called her friends, i wouldn't doubt they be yelling, 'dump that loser lets go out and find you a new guy'
Appreciate your thoughs, Steve but you see I'm not my wife.
I am currently revaluating if I do want to fight for my marriage after this. I think I do. Maybe I change my mind later but I also need to acknowledge that I made mistakes that confused her and pushed them to that unfortunate decision. That's my share and I accept that.
I'm re-reading DR on the Infidelity chapter.
Hopefully I can get help from a vet or someone who has more constructive feedback but again, I do appreciate your thoughts.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
When you do meet with her, you say "W, I know about OM. I will not be part of an open marriage. You will either commit to working on our M and that will mean no contact with him. I will expect you to verify that with open cell phone and email accounts. If you will not agree to to no contact and to work on our M, I will begin interviewing lawyers tomorrow."
Until you do meet to have this discussion, disclose nothing to her. In fact, you should make yourself very hard to get in touch with until the meeting. Go dark.
Expose the EA to the OM's W. She needs to know. And when she beats him over the head with it, your W will be so yesterday. He will drop her.
Greek
Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Can't do that. Had to rent this place for at least 3 months. And that'd push her out of the house. Not fair.
You can do that, you're just making excuses and seriously, moving out is the worst thing to do when you have a WAW, let her make those actions & decisions, you don't have to, who told you to?
So you pay rent for 3 months at this place, ditch it, no worries, no excuses.
And you're worried about what's fair with pushing your wife out? You're not pushing her out, you don't get it, she's choosing to leave, you have nothing to do with it, it's ok, it's not your problem.
Hi Greek. We separated almost a month ago. At the time she agreed we'll meet in 1 month to discuss where to go from there. That's supposed to happen next weekend.
I've found out via a common friend that she wants to definitely end things that day.
Again, she's having an internet affair with an ex boyfriend who is also "supposedly" divorcing his wife.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
