Hang on, if YOU don't GO then HE can't get a divorce?
is that what you are saying?
What are the consequences to you if you don't go?
Really mb? I think even the most unreasonable judge would understand you need to get your feet under you. It is going against your IC's advice to proceed with this now. What does your L say about postponing this?
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I wish. I guess these classes become mandatory in our state a few years ago to try to discourge couples from getting divorced. However, if couples did decide to go foward, they also added the co-parenting class for help with that. H has not filed the paperwork yet, but does have it ready to file. He wants me to just sign it so it will be easy and that part I'm not willing to do. If he wants the divorce he will have to serve me the paperwork.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
"OK, so what is the procedure if you like the first half and want to work to resolve this? can you have the court order your husband to attend FT first for six months?"
"I wish. I guess these classes become mandatory in our state a few years ago to try to discourge couples from getting divorced. However, if couples did decide to go foward, they also added the co-parenting class for help with that. H has not filed the paperwork yet, but does have it ready to file. He wants me to just sign it so it will be easy and that part I'm not willing to do. If he wants the divorce he will have to serve me the paperwork."
Ok so you can go tonight and drop it for awhile? Is it a prerequisite to filing? I worry this is too soon for you.
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mb, don't go to this class unless it's the right thing for your mental health. Ask your IC about it if you're not sure. I agree that no reasonable person would expect you to attend a class like this when you're in a fragile state like you are. I'm sure they have these classes all the time. There is no emergency for you to do this IMO.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Thanks everyone for the concern, but I think it will be ok from what my friend tells me who had to take them a few months ago. She said they are not bad, and actually try to teach options to save your M.
These are NOT a prerequisite to filing, just for the D to be final. When my H and I were on speaking terms a few weeks ago we talked about this class and he thought it would be good for us as parents even if we decide not to get a D.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Well, good luck, I hope it goes well. Maybe you can drive yourself so you can leave if at anytime it gets too much. I know for me, now it would be too much and I am in a pretty good place right now. Let me know tonight how it goes. (((hugs)))
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me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
