Sent evidence to OM W already and her sister. Should hear about them shortly.
Wife Exposing speech. To be done by phone. Pls let me know what do you think. Too harsh? Too soft?
Clock is Ticking.
W: Hello?
Me
Hi, X.
I just called you to let you know, that I know what you've been doing and I won't put up with it.
I gave you space, I respected your decision of not seeing each, I was a gentleman and you paid me by betraying my trust.
Sure, I wasn't a perfect husband, but while I was still trying to work on our marriage you decided become an adulterous woman. You thought it was a good decision, to go from being a priority in my life, to being second in married man's life. Ok, that's your decision, you live with that but I won't be a part of that. This is your decision, and you're a grown woman and I can't control you, nor do I want to. But you emphatically need to know, I will NOT live in an open marriage. I value myself too much to do that. I wonder, how can someone who speaks so much about love and gratitude can keep so cool about destroying innocent children's lives? Do you have any idea what this is going to do to the children? I guess it's to do with your law of atracction ideas, "take care of your own happiness, be selfish"
I'm starting to like that though, actually, so from know on, I'll only care about myself and what I want.
The old me, who used to consider you for everything, is gone.
You've lost all of my trust. Sadly, I don't trust you right now, and I find the need to protect myself, and our kids. So I'm letting you know that as of today, I'll be taking every meassure to protect myself and our marriage from your reckless behaviour.
I can't trust you.
Oh, and one more thing.
I remember you telling me how you needed a real man and I was just a kid. Well, dear. You see, Real men don't go betraying their wives and their children and chasing lovers.
Real men protect their marriages and their wives at all costs.
And that's exactly what I'm going to do.(You're going to SHOW her this, Frace, not TELL her this). Real men are DOERS, not TALKERS.
bye.
Way, WAY too much. See suggested edits, above.
Puppy
NO TIME TO RE-DO THIS, FRACE -- THE "UNDERLINES" ABOVE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE STRIKE-THRUS!!!
I know what you've been doing. Stop. Don't even bother to lie to me. I won't tolerate this behavior anymore. When you asked for space I respected your decision to not see each other. While I was a gentleman you were busy lying and deceiving me. Your betrayal has destroyed my trust in you.
I will no longer live like this and have taken the appropriate measures to protect myself and my values. As long as you are committing adultery I have no wish to see you or speak to you.
Enjoy your sick "attraction". Goodbye. <CLICK>
EDIT:
- You do NOT need to tell her how much she has hurt you. - You do not use an accusatory tone of voice with her - Your voice is calm and unemotional as you state the facts (think Gone With The Wind... "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn") - You have confidence. - You do not whine or complain.
Exposed to W. She denied it all of course. Didn't engage in conversation. Just stated the facts. Not any of the specifics.
Her head must had been spinning, afterwards.
She say she didn't know what was I talking about.
Good try for a woman that never lied before.
I would have bet you $10,000 cash that this is what would happen.
I have even heard of cheating spouses being SHOWN the evidence (something I do NOT recommend -- NEVER reveal the source(s) of your intel!), and they STILL deny it. I actually played a RECORDING for my wife, of her and OM that I won't even get into here, but it was sexual in nature, and SHE DENIED THAT WAS EVEN HER: "That's not me on there. No, it's not."
"Compartmentalization" is a bitch.
GOOD JOB on exposing and confronting; now steel yourself into the gale-force wind that's gonna blow, cuz it's surely gonna blow.
Oh, and I've got 7:30pm tonite in the pool for her to spew forth the "I was GOING to try to work things out with you, but NOW YOU'VE BLOWN ANY CHANCE OF THAT BY DOING THESE THINGS TODAY!"
