Over the phone, she tried to act as if she didn't know what was I talking about. Then, I told her "Stop. Don't even bother lying. I know" She kept quiet for the rest of the call.
this is all your wife has said to you thus far?
The day after she sent a txt message:
"I understand if you're angry but I hope that you can find it in you to give me a chance to talk"
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
I made a BIG mistake. Didn't noticed until I sent it but I sent the message to my W's from my fake FB account which I use to log to my FB Divorce busting account.
I already deactivated that account and told her I sent it by mistake from a colleage account!!!
Damn, that was a HUUUUUUUGE mistake. I hope she doesnt flop
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
Just to post on the Divorce busting page so i don't have to use my name. I already deactivated that account so hopefully she wouldn't see that. Damn that was a big mistake.
Last edited by Fracesc; 03/28/1005:18 PM.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
I'm still confused, but I wouldn't worry about it. They say that people in affairs immediately lose about 30-40 IQ points, and that's been my experience as well.
I do think you would have been better off to NOT SAY ANYTHING, and just deactivate the account (kinda like a musician who makes a mistake -- "just keep on playing, they probably won't notice.")
What is it specifically that you fear? That she'll be able to find you on HERE?
OK, Frace, brace yourself, cuz this is gonna sting.
If this is all the intestinal fortitude you have, you're going to be a raging failure at Divorce Busting. Because you're going to have DOZENS of days like this.
DOZENS.
You are in an emotional and even a spiritual battle right now, for your marriage. If you want to have "easy" days, then JUST DO NOTHING. I'm sure your wife will be glad to "go along to get along," and you'll be fine . . . for awhile.
Then she'll announce one day, several months from now, that she's divorcing you and she will already have all of her bases covered, and you'll have to just sit there and take it up the you-know-what.
Or, you can fight -- NOW -- on YOUR terms, as the one guy in the marriage who actually has its best interests at heart right now.
Your choice. But stop the pity party, because you're doing JUST FINE.
