WAW and the law of attraction

[FormelyknownasF]

Great advice and the road map as usual Puppy.
I have to say I feel absolutely ready to GAL now.
The waiting was killing me and she replying was such a relief.

Smile and wave. Such a nice way to put it, isn't it?

I made a deal with myself.

She's responsible for the consequences of her decisions,
I'll be responsible for the consequences of mine (telling OMW, etc)
I can cope with that. At least this time, it was MY choice. Her affair wasn't.

Thanks again,
F

[Puppy Dog Tails]

That's a great way to put it, Former.

And here's another:

Everything that YOU have done, even if in error, has been done in an effort to PRESERVE your marriage.

Everything that SHE has done, has been done to FLEE from her marriage, and to cheat.

Doesn't make you a saint -- you both are still responsible for your own issues in the marriage -- but there's simply no comparison between the tactics and actions of the two spouses at this stage of the game. One is done from a position of morality and ethics, and the other from a position of fantasy, escape, entitlement and lust.

Puppy

[chatterbug]

p.s. You do not need to have her as a friend to send private messages.... remember that.

make sure you explain your goals very clearly and I would suggest that you have a phone call conversation.

And then leave her alone to process everything. Do not mention this site. Do you understand.

When you talk. Connect the dots.

[FormelyknownasF]

Sorry I didn't know I had to discuss my goals with OMW.
Do I? Then I might need to contact her again. I gave her my
email details and phone number.

[chatterbug]

Your goals are to bust the affair.

Because you want a chance to save your marriage.

That is the goal I ment.

A simple goal that is easy to understand.

[FormelyknownasF]

I get it. I'll share this with her then.

[WalkingMan]

Nice work Formerly! Please keep us posted!

[FormelyknownasF]

Ok. OM W made contact.
He confronted him and of course he lied.
He said the flowers were because my W had lost a sister!
She only has one sister and I just spoke to her on the weekend!

She's in denial. I said I understand is hard but she needs to be
strong for her kids. Asked for more evidence so sent everything
I had.

I think she'll get there but the important thing is she already
confronted him and he lied. After our talk she's better prepared
for the next round.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I think she'll get there but the important thing is she already
confronted him and he lied.

. . . which enhances YOUR credibility with her.

Nicely done.

Puppy

[FormelyknownasF]

Yes, i think it did. Or she'd have ended the conversation.
I told her specific details as his mobile phone number, etc
she was in shock, obviously.

She asked me about my story with my wife and if she knew.
I was honest but tried not to reveal to much. Specially about
the plan. But I did try to reach for some empathy and told her
I admire her courage to confront this and be strong for her family.