Well, I would play it out in your mind a few times just so your prepared and calm and cool. I would not show any emotion are discuss your state. Just keep it friendly and short...life is good, no worries. Make her wonder. Be mysterious. Your're on your way to a party or something fun and out of character. No details.
Hope this helps!
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
Today my W's BF (the one who has been aiding her with the affair) lands into town.I was thinking of confronting her with an email like this:
------------------------- I know you arrive today. Two months ago, I told you how happy I was that you'd come to this country and how welcome you were to stay with us for awhile. You see, I considered you my friend too. Today, I don't appreciate at all you been here. I know exactly to what extent you aided my W in her affair with a married man. I know you think, that's what friends do, support each other. Don't fool yourself, you're not supporting her. You are helping her to lie, deceit and destroy two marriages and the lives of innocent children. How sad it is that you didn't learn from your own mistakes. How did your affair help you? 4 years of depression and alcoholism and now you're fleeing the country? Is that what you want for your best friend? Well, make no mistake, I will take every measure to prevent this to happen to my wife and my marriage.
If there's any dignity left on you, stop poisoning my wife immediately. If there isn't well, I only hope you can live with your conscience.
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What do I want to achieve from this?
1. As my wife hasn't contacted me and is trying to 'forget me' this is a measure to stir the pot.
2. Block whatever message, gift, etc OM has sent with this friend. (hopefully, they'll spend more time talking about me confronting the friend than whatever gift, letter, etc OM has sent)
3. Closure with the friend.
Suggestions/advice? Thx
Last edited by FormelyknownasF; 04/06/1006:51 AM.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
I'll try and be cool and not think about it for the rest of the day. It's tough. Her being here means, the time for my wife to meditate on things it's practically over.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
The thing is, F, you have only just been bombed less than two months ago. This is very difficult, because this is bound to get a lot worse before it gets better.
