Oh, I doubt she'll be forgetting about you. It seems more like she's frantic to cover her tracks now. So, see? She has reacted to an action you took.
You are in control of the only things that you can be: your own actions and reactions.
Heh....you're doing fine.
And I do believe that you are GAL'ing for real, not fake. And she has already noticed changes in you. I'm sure she didn't expect that you would alert om w.
Stay dark for awhile. She can't control that. You have more power than you think.
I think you're spot on about there not being any single recipe to work in this situation. But there's definately many years of experience here that will and has helped. All the great perspectives and advice here made such a difference in my life.
It may be too late for me, but you still have a chance and it looks like to me that you are getting control of your life and I guarantee your wife sees it.
Don't quit!
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
there's definately many years of experience here that will and has helped.
Absolutely. And that's why I respect and do my absolute best to follow that advice:)
I'm not quitting. At this point that'll be suicide. I know this is my last shot and believe me, I'm doing my very best.
The only frustrating bit sometimes is to learn that the Queen is still happily locked in the castle, throwing a party and has shut every window to me and my picnic.
I understand that I can't control that. No contact and GAL are the only things I can control right now. I'm moving on with that. Still, I'm only human.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
So just to be clear guys. Making my facebook public, good or bad idea? I'm uploading pictures of myself my new experiences. That's itself something I never did before. In 2 years I've never uploaded a picture of me.
Does it break the "going dark" code?
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
So just to be clear guys. Making my facebook public, good or bad idea? I'm uploading pictures of myself my new experiences. That's itself something I never did before. In 2 years I've never uploaded a picture of me.
Does it break the "going dark" code?
I don't think this breaks the NC. Because if she goes to your FB, you aren't pursuing her. I did the same thing and like you I though my xw wouldnt notice. Come to find out she was mentioning things on my FB to our friends.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
