Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I need to stay focus on things right now.
I need to have faith in my W to make to right decisions. I will continue to DB.

Greek if you still stop by, while Coach was DBing did you have doubts that the changes he made would lasting?

This process is certainly a marathon. Eight months into it and I still feel like I'm in limbo.
Why would she be waiting soooo long to decide on things.

It has been a month since she mentioned we need to get together to discuss ou post marital agreement.

Do I say something about this or wait for her to make to first move?

If it's going to happen I want it to happen but if she is still uncertain not bringing it up may be a good thing for me.

Insights welcome.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Feeling pretty good today. Woke up at 5am said a litte prayer then worked out and did yoga. I Need to take care of some finencial items this week to protect myself in case thinhgs don't work out.

I am starting to look around for new home so I can get a fresh start. A few friends thought that was a good idea.

I don't want to be blind sided by anything any more so I am preparing myself for the worst.

I will continue to DBing and have faith in my W.


What's the longest time someone DBed and things turned out good??

know we can't put time frmae on things but it seems to me if there was reconciliation it would happen within a year's time.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I moved my thread to VETERANS VIEWS ON WAS
time for action.

[MrBond]

You should leave your thread here since it's your own. The other thread is for general opinions.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

To all that checked out the new thread, thanks i think it helped a few folks here.

I will continue to post my journal here per mrbond's suggestion.


Today I feel the same as yesterday, still focused on confronting W on her lack of motivation to meet to discuss post nupt.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Doing some more thinking today about W trip with GF.

I am trying not to but I have a bad feeling about who she is going with.

Anyway mza8 pointed out that I finally show one or two positves from W.
The first was her offering to take the kids while I go on my annual trip. But now I am thinking maybe she did this b/c she needs/wants something in return.

Secondly I noticed the past few times she has looked good when I drop the kids off. I converse with her and give her updates about kids. When she drops off the kids she does talk to me about them. It's just a drop off and she says to the kids - give me hugs and I'll see you later. There is nothing towards me.

Also since she works second shift she likes to call at break time to wish the kis goodnight. Every time my D5 is done talking she asks "Mommy, do you want to speak to daddy"? and each time the answer is no.

So you can see hear we don't have much interaction and it is frustrating.

If so is so set on getting D then why doesn't she bring up the post nupt we are suppose to talk about? It's been over a month now.

Any insights on this?

[timehealsall]

Give her space...How are YOU when you see her or talk to her?

Are you upbeat? positive? or are you sad and gloomy?

Be patient..

[timehealsall]

oh and the reason why she hasn't done anything about the papers yet may be because she isn't ready yet.

she may be waiting it out and is undecided...

Don't ask or press the issue..

[gr8 day 2B alive]

tha,
I am upbate with her and I also have been telling her she looks great!. She says thanks but it isn't a happy thanks.
I started complimenting her b/c I didn't to a good job at this before.

I have been patient 8 mnths now and still at it but I feel our situation isn't getting anywhere either good or bad.

I week ago I was saying to myself I don't what to pressure her, but now I feel I need to let her know I am unhappy in the situation and something needs to change. I want a happy life either with you or with someone else.

I have a phone session tomorrow and will ask her for advice too.

Is there anything else I could be doing to win her back?

[gr8 day 2B alive]

another thought, do I tell her I think we need to communicate better?