Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I am looking for advice to detach in a healthy way.
As anyone hve any tips?

[gr8 day 2B alive]

What the opinion here about writing a letter to WAW?
In it I would state my needs and wants in a relationship. I would not say ILY or anything on those lines.

What would be pros and cons of a letter of this type?

Me and W are stagnant right now, we both do our own things. She has been GAL with her new friends and I have been GAL too.

Input welcome.
thanks gr8

[Greek]

gr8,
My opinion is that you should not do this. WORDS are not your most effective tool at this time. ACTIONS - being a confident, measured, TCB kinda guy is what will SPEAK to her (to anyone!) the loudest at this time.

I say no to the letter.
Greek

[gr8 day 2B alive]

OK. No letter. I'm not sure of the success rate of it anyway.

Now that it has been established that I'm not going to dinner after D5 graduation, Should I even sit with or next to W?
Her parents will be attending also.

Or should I go to the Graduation and sit alone?

I'm thinking the latter.

As always insights and perspectives are welcome.

[Greek]

OK. No letter. I'm not sure of the success rate of it anyway.

Now that it has been established that I'm not going to dinner after D5 graduation, Should I even sit with or next to W?
Her parents will be attending also.

Or should I go to the Graduation and sit alone?

I'm thinking the latter.

As always insights and perspectives are welcome.

If it were me, I would sit where I can get the BEST view of what my little one is doing. And if that happens to be near W and inlaws, so what? I would sit in the best seat for accomplishing my objective which is to view this awesome event. Where they are or are not is of no concern.

How 'bout them apples?
Greek

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Greek,

I really appreciate x1000 that you follow my sitch.

I'll keep posting and whenever you see something please let me know.

Thanks again, you don't know how good this makes me feel.

[gucci loafer]

Make sure to get to the graduation FIRST.
Sit where you want. Then it won't be a problem of where you sit. Problem solved.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Good point GL, glad to see you stop by.
I was thinking the same thing.
Get there first, then let her decide.
If she goes her own way it will speak volumes to me.

[beingreal]

I'm sorry I've missed so much. Catching up now...

I think Greek & Gucci are 100% correct. Get there first, sit where you want. That way it's not an issue. How are you with you ILs?

As for the letter, again they are right on the nose. We women can read anything into anything, and the fact that you take time to right a letter speaks volumes. Much more than what the actual letter might say. Doing nothing translates into feeling nothing.

I know you'd already decided against it, I just put that out there in case you start to revisit the idea.

I have to say from a woman's POV, it's a good sign if your friend's wives are trying to set you up with their friends. I would never try to set my friends up with a loser, so they must hold you in some pretty high regard. Keep remembering that when W's actions start to get to you.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Make sure to get to the graduation FIRST.
Sit where you want. Then it won't be a problem of where you sit. Problem solved.

Alright, I need a plan B. W will have the kids on the day of graduation and D5 needs to be there an hour before ceremony.

W will be there before me.