about dating...just realized something...saw on another thread where the woman started dating (cuz she was DONE-not as a strategy) and her WS wanted her back. HOWEVER when she started initiating invitations to the WS (i.e. pursuing but after a long while and after interest from WS), he WAS NOT RECEPTIVE. Turns out the dating thing just caused the WS to react and want her to want him, but it was not permanent.
I am so sorry that I can't remember who this woman was! SO dating 100% for you- not as a surefire last ditch effort to get WS back. Of course I am sure Robx knows this!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
There is a small gland located in the vertebrate brain called the pineal gland, also referred to as the pineal eye. It is responsible for melatonin production. Melatonin production is stimulated by darkness and inhibited by light, and decreased melatonin is taught to influence desire for sex. It has been studied in the seasonal breeding patterns of birds and other small animals.
Spring. talk of dating. Someone's pineal eye is getting some sunshine
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- based on what you've seen on these forums, how many LBS's give up when their WAS's are having affairs ;-)
I think this bulletin board is heavily skewed by codependent personalities and failure.
The observation is that people are attracted to happy, successful, interesting individuals. That and the personality traits associated with them make others want to learn more about you, spend time with you.
If your relationship with your spouse has you feeling the opposite, the very next thing you should consider is interacting with others, someone else. Spend more time knowing yourself then miserating over someone that is off doing such. You are likely to find you are an incredible person that people, someone else, are attracted to, interested in and are made to feel happy, successful and interesting by you. Get out and calcify that penial eye .
good point steve
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
did you get the truth from her? If so how was you reaction?
Is there another title to your story?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
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