Offer help in some way or give her a hug if she's open to it... Did she need to buy some or did she just forget to take medication that she had available in the home?
Buy her a weekly meds box.. it has each day blocked out into its own container she can put meds into .. it makes medication much easier to manage...
These suggestions may not fit, but you get the idea... HELP in some way... "that stinks" isnt' going to make her want to come to you when she's down... or otherwise feeling out of sorts
I strongly suspect she's got depression... One of the side effects is lack of energy... My wife experiences depression as well, and when she does, she sleeps.
Another side effect is the negative attitude. She's miserable and the depression is aggravating it.
The PROBLEM with this woman is she won't DO anything about it, but wants to blame OIN for it all... its a difficult situation.
Offer help in some way or give her a hug if she's open to it... Did she need to buy some or did she just forget to take medication that she had available in the home?
It is a prescription that was suppose to be sent to the pharmacy a few days ago after a Dr visit but forgot to pick it up 2 days in a row.
The night before, when she told me she forgot to pick it up, I said I would run to the pharmacy for her but it had already closed. I then assisted her in searching for her old allergy meds just to get her through the work day, we ended up finding one pill.
A hug? out of the question. I have not tried in a while nearly 2 months now, but when we sleep in the same bed and we happen to nudge against on another she instantly changes her body position.
Update: This morning called off work. I got up and got ready for church, just before I was leaving W asked if I could swing by pharmacy to pick up meds, and I agreed to do so.
While I was at church W searched the following in google... "Fathers rights to child" , "can she keep child away" , "father's have same rights as mothers"
I found this VERY ODD. OM does have one son.
W I walked into bedroom W was looking at quotes on websites, She looked at me and said "I'm going to put a clever quote on my facebook" the quotes were about people talking about someone behind their backs ect..
W also looking at "Love quotes again"
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
Here are some quotes she just sent herself in email...
Quote:
I miss you when something really good happens, because you are the one I want to share it with. I miss you when something is troubling me, because you are the one who understands me so well. I miss you when I laugh and cry because i know that you are the one that makes my laughter grow and my tears disappear. I miss you all the time, but I miss you most when i lay awake at night and think of all the wonderful times we spent with eachother;for those were some of the best times of my life
Quote:
The people who really care won't hurt you, but if they do, you'll see it in their eyes, for they'll be hurting too.
Quote:
Maybe some people just aren't meant to stay in our lives forever, maybe some people are just passing through. It's like some people just come through our lives to bring us something, a lesson we need to learn, and that's why they are there.
Quote:
There will always be people you can't believe you were friends with, boys you can't believe you kissed, and people you can't believe you lived without... people change but if you're lucky a certain few will change you.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
W came downstairs and was dress and ready to leave. I assumed we were going to visit FIL GF at hospital so I started to get ready myself.
W said - "I am going to pick up my script, then I will be back in a little bit"
Me - "We're not going to visit"
W - "Not today"
Me - "Oh, OK"
W - "I don't feel good and I don't want her to see me like this cause then she will worry"
Me - "That's understood. Why are you taking your gun with you?"
W - "Because I feel like it, I waited a year to get a permit to carry it"
Me - "No, nothing wrong with that"
W - "Don't worry, I am not going to shoot anyone"
Me - "Or yourself"
W - "I would not do that to my father"
After a few of silence
Me - "I am concerned about you"
W - "You don't need to be"
Me - "You say you would not do that because of your father but other wise you would"
W - "No, I am saying my father is everything, so I would not do that to him and be that selfish. You know how much he means to me, he is the reason why I still live in this area"
As an FYI W decided long ago that she wanted to remain in this area rather than seek a career elsewhere, I even encouraged her to do so and that I would make the career adjustment, W said she loved me wanted to spend life with me and start a family together, so she did not seek a career elsewhere.
Me - "I know how much your father means to you. I am just concerned that's all."
W - with a very disgusted look on her face "You don't need to be"
and then she walked out the door.
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W is so obsessed with OM. W sees us as a mistake, that is actually part of her password for some website logins.
I'm beginning to believe this divorce is NOT and CANNOT be busted.
W is making me out to be worse of a person than I really was.
W acts like everything she ever said was all a mistake and wishes we never happened.
W just posted this quote on facebook before she left
Quote:
Everyone sees who I appear to be but only a few know the real me, you only see what I choose to show there's so much behind my smile you just don't know.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
I am not a pro by any means- it's not fair for any of us to assume anything- BUT- I feel as though she is indeed depressed and trying to figure out her life.
Perhaps she's still grieving r w/ OM or trying to figure out her feelings for you- probably both.
Forgive me if I am pointing out the obvious-
I can say this though- she doesn't even know how she feels-
My WAW returned briefly- spoke about how she wanted children, how she wished she was w/ me when I visited my birth sister, etc, etc.
Similarly- since she's bolted yet again, her quotes are "do not grieve the past or fear the future, but make the present as beautiful as you can."
People often exaggerate their "mind set" when they are confused so that they are offered reassurance...I know this is the case w/ my W.
Your W is still in the house- and it seems as though you are doing well to not aggravate the sitch.
Remember, it is her shirt, not yours. Be the best you can be, and do not exude any negativity- that is the real killer in these sitches.
