No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[robx]

It's actually 2-1/2 years in and counting...


February of 08 is when she told him she wanted a divorce..

Give it to him straight Gooch, let him know what he needs to do even if he doesn't want to hear it.

[MrBond]

Ha! Wouldn't be on here if I didn't think I needed the occasional 2x4s.

[Steve McQueen]

I told her that was something she was going to have to let go.

You need to let go.

[robx]

yup

[MrBond]

I agree.

[gucci loafer]

Glad to hear you say you agree...

NOW it is time to agree with HER....

"Yes, I now see it. It isn't going to work. I now realize that you really don't love me. I now realize that you are saying that it just isn't there for you and you just don't feel the feelings you want to feel to be in a romantic relationship. I now realize that you believe that you may have NEVER been in love with me. I don't know what took me so long to understand that. It suddenly hit me that it probably irritates you to no end just to give me a hug. I NOW get it. I agree. It is never going to work when a person feels like that. It wouldn't be fair to either one of us. I am not even sure how I feel anymore about you after all that has happened. From this point on I promise you that I am going to stop trying. I should have realized this a long time ago."



And THEN you do exactly that.


No more figuring out. No more wondering. No more analysis. Total acceptance of the reality the way she sees it.

[Steve McQueen]

but you really dont have to say anything. She lives with her sister,

and didnt put out on your birthday.

[MrBond]

Yep. I wasn't planning to say anything to her.

And double agreement on the B-day thing. SM : )

Tonight, going out to a book tasting and a "Bohemian" Japanese after party. Whatever the heck that means.

[MrBond]

Hmmm W just called to say 'hi' and see how my day was going. That's the first time in over a year. Should I acknowledge it?

[gucci loafer]

What happened over the weekend?

Did you talk to her etc?