You know, we embrace forgiveness, grace, honor, the fact that people make their own choices in life and you only control what you can for your own happiness.
Then something like that happens and you can throw a lot of that good stuff out the window.
Sorry to hear that R2C ...
Not sure what you mean about throwing the good stuff out the window.
Being able to identify that I was angry was good. Fully feeling that anger was good. Expressing my true feeling to MsR2C was good:
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I do agree that you are capable of making decisions on your own. I just question if you are making decisions out of spite or for the well being of our children. That is why it is nice to have the kids T available. As I explained to D8, before she decided she wanted to go, funerals are part of life and it is a time to grieve and support the family. I feel that manipulating her choice by tempting her with horse back riding was not in her best interest. It makes me sick that you (and your mother) are teaching my daughter that a $35 horse riding lesson is more important than a family funeral.
in response to her Email
Originally Posted By: MsR2C
Nice job calling the kids T - I'm actually capable of making decisions on my own. Out of respect for your mom and grandma I will let the boys go to the funeral on Tuesday - D8 does not want to attend. I will drop them off at your house around 7:45 tomorrow morning and expect them back at mom and dad's house by 3:30.
And then taking the boys back to my house and having MsR2C come pick them up was also good.
And then fully forgiving her so that I can happily smile at her the next time I see her and not react to anything she does.
It is about doing the right thing. It is about responding and not reacting.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Just let it roll off. She can only get to you if you let her. Trust me, if you ignore the drama and BS, stick to your boundries and good life, it with definately get under her skin.
I now know this from experience and although my XW left me, she feels as if she's the one left behind. I now have great people in my life, live in the place I've always wanted to and am finally happy. She lives with the loser she left me for, who has no job (do they ever?) and just sits on her couch playing video games and drinking.
karma is a B@tch.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
