Punkin - If you are tempted to email her, Jack is right DELETE the email. I have had OW's email, address and phone numbers for months and not once was I tempted to use it...
Me, too, Punkin.
Hit that button and put her out of your mind. You are so much bigger than that.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
Yep! Agree with everyone! I called OW from H's cell phone and he left the next day!
Your H will protect her at all costs right now!
Glad that you decided to delete it!!!
Have the fantasy revenge in your head and let it go!!!! OW has major issues and I am not suggesting feeling sorry for her...just saying...it will take care of itself!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Okay guys, I'm not ready to throw in the towel and sign divorce papers, but I do feel I need to protect myself here. Military + 20 years = 50% of retirement pay. My H will also be receiving 100% Disability in addition to his retirement, and is eligible to apply for Social Security Disability besides. I plan to also ask for Maintainence.
Is it kosher to seek a settlement agreement even though you are not ready to sign divorce papers? The thing is, I can hold over his head that I can cross complain on grounds of adultery, and can list up to 6 witnesses. He'd rather die first. Any experts on Military Divorce out there? How about any lawyers?
Thanks Jack. I contacted Military One Source with my questions and they have emailed me back they will contact me with an answer to all my questions in 3 days.
The party is on for Sunday. 40% chance of rain, but I won't let that stop me. Also invited some old friends to come, as well. Just got back from town where I bought all my eats and fireworks. Plan to shoot them off over the pond for effect. Daughter texted WH if he was still going to Branson, and he said "don't know". She made fun of him about the country music thing. What a dork.
Hey Guys, The party went off well. All told I had 8 people here not counting 3 grands. We ate hot dogs and potato salad, watermelon and drank lemonade, then walked down to the pond to shoot off fireworks, which the kids loved. Only a time or two did I feel sad that WH was not there, it's his own fault he hasn't any of his own family on the holiday.
I'm feeling very good and more 'normal' than I have in the last 5 months. I was able to get out and do some weeding and trimming this morning, going to mow a little later. I'm really looking forward to selling this place, with all the 'us' memories, and getting a place of my very own. I'm beginning to realize that our children are right. I always did all the work and gave him all the credit.
Actually looking forward to work tomorrow. Hope everyone had a great holiday!
Hey Punkin, sounds like you had a nice holiday weekend....you are sounding good...keep moving forward.
As much as I love my house, I've been also been having thoughts about selling it and moving into "my own" place to start a new chapter...make new memories.
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
