You have become boombox guy...haven't you Grit?????
All of these discussions make me think about a book I read many years ago. I just got out of a 4 year R...just got done with college- and just felt very lost. I don't believe in A god..I wouldn't consider myself religious..but I guess I would consider myself spiritual...so buying this book was sort of out of character for me. I think it was called 'A Course in Miracles' or lessons from 'A Course in Miracles'...something like that.
I don't know why I haven't picked it up in years..(probably because I have no idea where it is)....but it contained daily lessons which really resonated with me at the time...and the advice being given in this thread really reminds of some of those lessons.
That period of time turned into one of the best times of my life. I felt genuinely happy...at peace..and single.
This was the year/2 years prior to meeting my H. Grit- I think I told you this before...when I met my H- I felt like I was in such a great place.
LW, What is stopping you from finding that inner peace again ? What are your obstacles ?
Well for starters...I have just experienced my first post M casualty. I called it off with the guy that I was seeing...and it didn't go as well as I expected.
I was honest. Told him I wasn't ready. Told him I was sorry. I didn't give him the "it's not you it is me" speech..but I did say that I was going thru alot and I have been distracting myself to avoid dealing with what was going on in my life.
He responded with "I thought you were the nicest, most honest, kindest girl I have ever met...I was wrong"...and then said "you married a cheating man and dated a drunk who got hit by a train...I don't understand". He made this easier for me. I feel terrible.
I am truly EXHIBIT A of why not to get into a rebound relationship!!!!
Well now that I have learned another lesson the hard way...I am on a quest for inner peace????!!!! or perhaps a good night's sleep will be suffficient for now. I'll start small.
loves ya, dude.