((((((((GF)))))))) Yack! I expect he has a right to it, though he should probably get it from the school.
I think you should not talk to him about this, you might be better off to toss your lawyer into the mix and try to head him off at the pass. It might be easier to be proactive than reactive.
Yeah, knowing whereabouts you live, I just pulled the school stats. Cali has a goal of 800 API based on the standardized testing. It looks like BV is at 860, well above the target, plus it was a Distinguished School in 2006. Fairmont...only at 765. I just got those here so I would try and get the official numbers from the district to take to court.
That combined with it being out of your area will work strongly in your favor I would think.
I am sure your signature would be required unless the judge makes an order giving him custody for that year. That's why he's so worked up about this. If he could do it on his own he already would have.
S10 is gonna be upset about it until he changes schools, makes some friends, and gets more settled. It'll be a rough transition, but things will settle back down in a few months.
I can't imagine having a cellphone at 10. I was 21 before I got my first one LOL.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
He gets S14's report cards via mail (we both do), but when filling out S10's paperwork they send home at the beginning of every school year, I'm guessing he forgot to "check" the box that requests a copy to be mailed to his residence as well. But anyway, he said he called the school and no one is there. I said keep calling. Sorry, but I'm not going to help him. If a judge has to order me to, fine. I will do it then.
Thanks for the link, Michelle. My mom also went online and printed some stuff out on both BV and Fairmont. On a "greatratings" scale of 1 to 10, BV ranked an 8. Fairmont...a 4.
I had to talk with my son. He sent me a text (from upstairs!) saying he's changed his mind and will go to BV. He doesn't want his father and I to fight and lose money. I'm guessing he heard me venting to my mom . It's really hard to try talking to him and reassuring him that everything is going to be ok when I know he's already worried, to let me and his father deal with this...knowing that he's trying to deal with it all in his head. I can tell him not to worry all I want, but it doesn't mean that he won't.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Oh and about the cellphone - I used to think the same thing. What the heck are all these 9, 10, 11 yo's doing with cellphones?!! LOL But when I got one for my teenager, I could get a second for $0...hard to pass on a deal like that. Plus, S10 is my most responsible and very well-mannered child of the three, so, he deserves it. Doesn't mean he doesn't act up every now and then ...as boys often do!...but he's awesome.
And with the report card, I think the angle XH is trying to go for is to say he has very good grades (which he does), so why change his school?
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Awww. I feel so bad for S10. It could be that or the calls from his dad. Either way, it sucks for him to be in the middle. He's such a sweetie though trying to be the diplomat.
Why change his school? So you don't have to drive him across town to a different school. So he can be in the same school as your youngest (or are they just far enough apart that they won't be?). So he can go to a better school. Duh! LOL
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
It does suck, and I feel really bad. I'm sure it's because of everything - he doesn't want us to fight (sadly, he has had to witness enough as it is), his dad's calls and texts which cause him to have to talk/worry about it, and he knows I am upset about the whole situation. NOT with my son AT ALL, and I've told him that. I'm just very upset that his father and I were unable to keep this between the two of us...and IMO, it's all because XH kept telling S10 to talk to me about him not wanting to go to BV. I feel instead he should've said something like, "I understand you're afraid, son, of going to a new school and not being familiar with anyone there. It can be a scary thought, but you will be ok, and you will meet new kids and make new friends." Something along those lines would've been SUPPORTIVE of the decision made....NOT "go talk to your mom and tell you don't want to go to BV, and if she won't change her mind, and you really want to go to Fairmont, then I will fight for full custody of you so you can stay there. I will fight for what you want, son."
F*!KTARD.
It's sad that he can't see the reasons I see...and not just me alone! Instead of driving to THREE schools with different schedules, it will only be two (and yes, he would be in the same school as S5). But more importantly, as you pointed out, and as I have over and over again to him, it is a BETTER SCHOOL. HELLLLOOOOOOOO!!!!
And I'm trying to remind myself that he is going off of S10's feelings, therefore, isn't thinking as an adult parent.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Well, you've got safety, better test scores, proper districting, and convenience all working in your favor. Plus S10 has stopped pushing to stay at the other school. I wouldn't let it get to you too much.
He is just fighting you to fight you. Whatever his motivation, just don't let him see your frustration or he'll feel like he's getting to you and you might give in.
Take care of you and the kids, as always.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
. It's really hard to try talking to him and reassuring him that everything is going to be ok when I know he's already worried, to let me and his father deal with this...knowing that he's trying to deal with it all in his head. I can tell him not to worry all I want, but it doesn't mean that he won't. 
...as boys often do!...but he's awesome. 
