Mmm, just had a bit of banter with him on skype, he just confirmed that S would be coming with him for the weekend, so I said great, I'll start psyching him up then with a smiley. He was glad about that, he said 'now you can get 2 mornings lie in', so I said 'YES! well one actually, cause I'm playing squash early sunday, but one morning lie in is good enough to catch up on beauty sleep'(good timing to tell him I'm doing my own squash thing).
Then I joked that it was his que to say I was beatuiful enough already So he laughed and said I was
He asked which racket I was using mine or his, i said his because my handle needed tape. So he said hed replace it for me, cuase he needed his. I said OH, you are playing squash again?!! When you gonna play with me then (he never had enough time to play), he said he'd love to (thank god he didnt get scared off!)Turns out his new house has a squash court nearby.
I joked about making him sweat, and that my speed and agility would astound him. He laughed and asked what I was smoking hehe i said I'd run little circles around him, he laughed. (he's huge and I'm tiny)
Was good banter Its easy now that I'm feeling more at ease with myself and who I am, and I like me. I suppose thats what they say about you have to love you, before you can love anyone else!!
Well i did love him, but I really kinda dont want to lose me again!!! EVER!!
Just read an article in Heat magazine, how it was probably a MLC that cause brad to leave sweet safe normal Jen, and go for exciting adventurous dangerous angelina!! Poor Jen
It has long been my opinion that if people like Jen Aniston and Sandra Bullock can't keep their husbands, what the hell chance did I have. The answer: Don't deal with douche bags. The problem is that all men are an inner douche bag, you just have to weed out the ones that are most likely to alter-douche-bag-ego on you. A very rare talent, and one I obviously lack. Mel Gibson should be the MLC Poster Boy. Perhaps there should be a magazine with pics to include warnings, for women only of course. Bet it would outsell Playgirl.
My point being: Men come to a point they look in the mirror and find they are not the dashing, young, physically strong, devil-my-care person they used to be, and it must be our fault. We sapped all the good out of their lives.
**Please forgive the douche bag remark to any males present on this board. There is a similar name for women in this pretext ( right Eric) but we will refrain from using it***
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Punkin I must disagree with you. You think that Jen aniston and Sandra Bullock are any more than just humans? They are the same as us. They put their pants on one leg at a time. Maybe they don't come on this board and get as good advice as we get.
I would say MOST people give up on their marriages. That seems to be more of the rule rather than standing up for them. It is easier to discard what is old and tattered and get something new than it is to repair the old.
We live in a throw away society. Does that make it right? Why do you think MWD started this business and this board? Her parents divorced after 25 years of marriage. She didn't understand it and wanted to DO something about it. All the books and what she stands for are because she believes in Marriage. She is trying to set an example and change the way our society thinks.
More than just human? No. Beautiful, talanted, rich. Yes. Apparently super nice personalities. Still get the shaft. I don't think either of them gave up on their marriage, although Sandra Bullock should have had a contract taken out on her husband.
I'm not GIVING UP on mine. But I stymied as to how to work on a marriage when I'm the only one involved, and our only communication is email in which he threatens me.
But I stymied as to how to work on a marriage when I'm the only one involved, and our only communication is email in which he threatens me.
I will continue the hijack. Read DB and DR. MWD says one person can work on a marriage. By working on yourself. By loving from a distance, Holding the door open so when your spouse is ready, you will both be able to have a marriage.
I have been working on my marriage by myself for quite a while.
OH POO! I missed all the fun I dont mind my thread being hijacked, sometimes going off topic a bit get the mind off stuff!!:)
I certainly am lacking in douchebag radar Even through everything that H has put me through tho, I still cant use douchebag and him in the same sentence, that either makes me incredibly dense or incredibly forgiving
Came to fetch S earlier - to spend the weekend with him, his friends and his parents. Kind if feel a bit yuk about it, seems he is spending the weekend with everyone he loves, and I'm not part of his 'loved ones' anymore Just a bit sad about it, but at the same time, he is entitled to spend his time however he wants, just dont understand why all this has happened....why he did what he did, what he was thinking, what he is thinking, I just wish I could read minds.....
Anyway, making the most of my evening off, had a long bubblebath, chatted to my parents on phone,and early to bed (Im knackered)
Tomorrow going to a gazzilion food markets with my friend - she wants to start up a business, and wants to go see what everyone is selling - to get ideas, so we will be driving around the countryside and stuffing our faces with delicious stuff for the day!!
So he laughed and said I was 