Pie's Story - he's comfortable again

[pie]

I have a question : How many of your WAS's are scorpios? Seems 2010 is a year for the scorpio to have fun and flings, let go of responsibilty, and concentrate on their 'inner dramas'...

Interesting.....

[punkin]

Not mine, Aries. But so many marriages seem to be falling apart around here. In my small town alone, it's unreal

[2gthrButApart]

Mine is Capricorn. And I agree with Punkin. About 90% of the marriages around us have split. I wish mine would heal already.

[pie]

Mmmmmm, whats the world coming too Seems like half of the population has gone mad, while the rest remain perfectly sane, or try to after the fallout(yep,us)

[2gthrButApart]

Are we sane? Fighting for perhaps the impossible? :-p

[pie]

LOL yes, perhaps WE are the insane ones!!!

[pie]

ok, need some more advise please, remember my other thread titled 'urgent advise please', well H came to drop S off, offered for us to all go get coffee, and in his car he had some of the songs playing that I gave to him, and as soon as we got in he said he really liked the 'Shinedown - if you only knew' song , another 'applicable' song - what you all think , its weird that the songs that he brings up are all sort of applicable or possibly applicable to our situation. This is the third sond he's brought up, what you think - still me being crazy? song lyrics :

If you only knew
I'm hanging by a thread
The web I spin for you
If you only knew
I'd sacrifice my beating
Heart before I lose you
I still hold onto the letters
You returned
I swear I've lived and learned

[Chorus]
It's 4:03 and I can't sleep
Without you next to me I
Toss and turn like the sea
If I drown tonight, bring me
Back to life
Breathe your breath in me
The only thing that I still believe
In is you, if you only knew

If you only knew
How many times I counted
All the words that wen't wrong
If you only knew
How I refuse to let you go,
Even when you're gone
I don't regret any days I
Spent, nights we shared,
Or letters that I sent

[Chorus]
It's 4:03 and I can't sleep
Without you next to me I
Toss and turn like the sea
If I drown tonight, bring me
Back to life
Breathe your breath in me
The only thing that I still believe
In is you, if you only knew

If you only knew
I still hold onto the letters
You returned
You help me live and learn

[Chorus]
It's 4:03 and I can't sleep
Without you next to me I
Toss and turn like the sea
If I drown tonight, bring me
Back to life
Breathe your breath in me
The only thing that I still believe
In is you, believe in is you
I still believe in you
Oh, if you only knew

[seeking answers]

Pie,

Just trying to get this straight. Are these songs that you gave him to listen to or songs that he's found on his own?

[Truegritter]

still me being crazy?

You're not crazy but you will be unless you stop reading into all this stuff.

Pie you are dealing with a very confused person some would even say sick.

If you focus on the things he says or listens to etc. you will end up in the same crazy place he is.

You need to detach.

You will know if he is ready to commit to the marriage...

And it will not be because of a song he is listening to.

IF

That happens it may be a long way off. I am not trying to rain on your music festival here..

I am saying for you to make it through this you have to let him go on his journey

and

you need to go on yours.

Live your life like he is not coming back.

Keep your expectations at zero

and hang on to your hope.

[pie]

ok, I've just about had enough. He's asked me to watch the music video for that song. Says its well produced and hes watched it 10 times etc. the link is

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U&feature=av2e

Either he's being incredibly insensitive, or hes trying to send a message. I dont understand which. I've never been good at interpreting stuff. help me out here please.