Whoa, CW! That is so satisfying to hear... And nothing like adding some more misery to the relationship to make it stressful and too difficult to maintain...have you checked your Cainer horoscope lately?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
You are now half tempted to aspire to insensitivity. You could cope much more easily with a stressful situation if you cared a little less about it. Someone is now being decidedly difficult. You very much want to do your best to solve a problem, but you only have a limited number of options and, if you are going to keep encountering awkwardness and obstruction, even these may diminish. Don't worry. Meet coldness with warmth, negativity with positivity, and fear with faith. Your own inner resources run much deeper than you imagine. Now is the right time for you to take an in-depth, up close and personal look at your life.
Here it is NM!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
I hope that OW's M ads little oil into the fire....that she disapproves of your H sure doesn't help their relationship....lets watch how it develops.
My OW's H told me that nobody in their families (his and hers) wants to have anything to do with OW for what she has done to her H & kids....now she is apparently sending Facebook friend requests to her pre-teen nieces and nephews....The parents don't want to talk to her so she is trying to stay connected to the family through their kids....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Do not underestimate how wearing the disapproval of one's family can have on a relationship. Especially those that started under the circumstances these ones did.
It may push the couple closer for a while, but when those 'in love' hormones start to fade reality sets in.
SA is right. I found from my step-son that he refused to take his family on vacation with H & OW, told him that he was married to me and it wasn't right, and wouldn't involve his kids in it. H didn't call him for over a month!
Son #2 hasn't spoken to him since February, and Son #1 only sporadically. He has contact with only one of our daughters, and that is sporadically. I think it is wearing on him, and would eventually with anyone.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Thought for the Day: “God is always talking to us. Some of the ways He ‘talks” to us is through inspiration, events that happen around us, and others we meet during the day. We just need to learn to “hear” Him with our ears, our eyes, our hearts, and our souls.” Have a great day today everyone! – Elmer Laydon
Hi Mila, SA and punkin Thanks for stopping by!
Thinking of families and and the effects of an A on them reminded me of a couple from my hometown. This was years ago but a woman, who was married to a Christain camp counselor, had an A with her sisters H who was a L and a few years younger than her. Both couples D'd and the affairee's married each other. I alwasy felt sorry for the LBS's and haven't thought about them in years. I wonder how the families handled all of that? The Aunt became the stepmom etc...wonder if they are still M? These are burning questions I will need to ask the next time I go to my hometown!!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
That's not a story, that's a soap on the Fox Network. Similar thing happened in my hometown back in the 60's. 3 couples involved. Doctor, Banker, Pharmacist and their wives. Turned out they were all having affairs with the others except for the Banker and the Doctor's wife. AND, they were all meeting in the back of the same funeral home. Peyton Place.
I like your thought for the day. I've often felt the same thing, that a particular song that comes on the radio as I drive to work, or seeing a deer run across the road, etc.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Hi punkin! I used to love to watch soaps but can't stand them now...too close to RL right now!!!!
Ok, any of you dream analyzers out there...I had a dream last night about H...first one since the truck one a few weeks ago...
...I am not sure if it was 2 dreams, or 1, 2 part one. H woke us at 6am and said he was here with some guys to move stuff out of the garage and did I want to come watch what they took...then in part 2...we must have been back together as we were going thru some junk and he handed me this box and told me to check and make sure nothing was in there, I looked in and there was a car registration, in my name for a green mustang. He had apparenlty bought me a vehicle to make up for his A I guess. So, he carries me to see it and we get there and it is not a green mustang, it is a baby blue something...don't know my cars that well but it is beautiful and I love it. Weird! I may have to post this on the boards and see if anyone can analyze it. I interpret that it means that he would still be deceiving me!!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
ooooh, I love to intrpret dreams! Here is my take:
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I am not sure if it was 2 dreams, or 1, 2 part one. H woke us at 6am and said he was here with some guys to move stuff out of the garage and did I want to come watch what they took...
I am remembering from your previous posts about how your H would just come and take things from the garage without tellingor asking you. You would look for some tool, for example, and it was gone. So this may have to do with your desire for him to be open with you about what he is taking (I know that is literal.
Another aspect to this is that your H is actually moving things from your house. You are letting go?
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then in part 2...we must have been back together as we were going thru some junk and he handed me this box and told me to check and make sure nothing was in there, I looked in and there was a car registration, in my name for a green mustang. He had apparenlty bought me a vehicle to make up for his A I guess. So, he carries me to see it and we get there and it is not a green mustang, it is a baby blue something...don't know my cars that well but it is beautiful and I love it.
I actually think you were right on about your H deceiving you...the part about him carrying you to see the car is fantasy like...so I take it as your H is selling you a pipe dream in a way! Leading you on because you look in the box to find something which is actually something else and you didn't even get closure from driving in the car....see what I mean? Empty promises,kind of.
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
