Coach, I so appreciate your insight. So I'm the tile, huh. Well I am fixing myself this week.lol. I have it in the works as we speak.
I like when he calls me "mom". It seems "intimate" to me.
And I do think he likes his mom a lot--she is the ultimate perfect mom/wife, etc. Lives for her family.
My only real reason to be on the boards is to become the best me I can be--learning about those boundaries, etc. And trying some "tough love" and standing up to my H is a first. It seems to be working for the most part.
Do you suggest anything else? I have my doubts that this is fixable too. I get a lot of satisfaction in knowing I have done all I was capable of doing. I will never be sorry I tried everything I could think of...I only hope I HAVE been able to think of everything.
As far as him having a lot of FOO issues...There are some things that have been challenging like when he was held back in 5th grade for dyslexia. But many people see this as the reason they were able to go on and achieve great things (which, he has). He has lots of weird anxieties and perfectionism. And it is getting worse....
Thanks again, Coach. When I get to the end, knowing someone like you gave my sitch the once over will help!
Glad you are doing the tile. Don't let him critique your work. He can help or get out of the way.
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I like when he calls me "mom". It seems "intimate" to me.
It's actually a attraction killer. Do some reading on that. He calls you "mom", SSM and watches porn. Connection maybe.... ????
Why does he struggle to hire someone to do some of the work?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
