W called to find out the time to link up and swap the boys. I told her I wanted to swap at 5PM. She had no issues with it once she realized the boys didn't have to go to school on MON. She had her soft voice, and was very accomodating. Wow, I'm impressed. So it's almost another full day tomorrow with the boys!!! She even asked me what activities we had planned for SUN. I just said "we'd plan for it tomorrow."
Then W texted S13 to ask what we were doing, and what we plan on doing the next day. Maybe she envies us for having a great time together, who knows. I invited her to join us for dinner. She said she already ate and declined. That's OK. We had a Great dinner.
JR
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
JR, Could you chime in on Doodis thread? There are some similarities between your two sitches.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Well, I left ID. Before my W came to pick up the boys, I called and told her we'll be running a bit late for the swap. I told her we were swimming one last time and would be ready to link up with her by 6PM. She said that was fine. At first she hesitated, then paused a little, then said 6PM was OK with her.
Of course the boys were thrilled to spend more precious time with me. I'm impressed my W was very accomodating throughout this weekend. I won't try to read much into it other than it's quite the step for her to be so accomodating with me. I'm impressed.Is she regaining trust slowly? I guess time will tell.
In any case, I had a great time with my boys. We made more memories, shared lots of stories, did everything together, laughed a lot. The boys said they were quite surprised I made the trip from 900 miles away to spend two and a half days with them. It was worth all the driving, believe me.
JR
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
I found Doodi's thread...similar indeed. It also kinda gives me an insight of what my W is thinking, going thru. My W is also codependent, on antidepressant medication. I'll keep reading.
JR
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
Glad you had a nice long weekend with your kids! Sounds like fun. So nice that your W was flexible about everything. Very cool that she pulled them out of school early!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I found Doodi's thread...similar indeed. It also kinda gives me an insight of what my W is thinking, going thru. My W is also codependent, on antidepressant medication. I'll keep reading.
JR
I'll have the go read this entire thread but wanted to ask you a quick question. Are you familiar with EMDR?
It is therapy used frequently for those that have been through traumatic experiences such as war, rape, robbery etc. My wife has significant anger issues caused by being raped on multiple occasions. She recently went through EMDR therapy and I believe it is helping. I recommend you look into it at your mental health facility or counselor.
So what's your take on my W's attitude to my coming up for the weekend? What do you take away from all the accomodating gestures? Just asking...
I remember how she said she'd refile right after the Christmas holidays...She hasn't mentioned it ever since. It's now 9 months later...I take that as a plus...
JR
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
