I'm so happy for you and H that your reconciliation has gone well and that things get better all the time.
Your experience and advice will be a welcome to so many here looking for help.
I'm glad that your return is on a happy note, congrats on 10 months of piecing!!!
(((Rabbit)))
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
Sanderika and Cas thanks for your messages, just so pleased now I have my new laptop I can at least pop in and be cheerleader to you both, you both were very supportive of my situation xxx
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Reading Rocked's post made me want to look back and see where H and I were a year ago, for those piecing your mind does finally let things go, my mind told me we were just about planning to get back together but on rereading my first thread H was still playing a little footloose and free! Hard to believe we have managed one Xmas two birthdays, one wedding anniversary and we are still together! Probably the hardest year in my life but I have grown from it, still probably still winging it a bit on things I should get done, I still am working towards being an individual in a marriage but most of its financial stuff now rather than personality wise.. So onwards, upwards and continually forwards. Much thanks to all that have supported me in that time xx
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Hey LR, Congrates on all the hard work in your M. Well just giving an update & venting, rambling, & probably boring u as i gave Sandi the same update & probably board her as well.
Wish I could be in the same spot as u or Sandi u guys have helped me out just by listing & offering advice on my situation. I have no Internet or cable yet so using iPhone sorry about spelling.
Well the move went ok another place to stay, but it's no home. I hope to have a town house in a year or even my house (that would be sweet probably not though)! I also should be done school provided nothing else happens.
Well we actually met for coffee two weeks ago just to go over separation agreement and we meet with the mediator this coming Wednesday to talk about the house. I told her that it was sad that it's come to this point & she said the same. I'm almost positive she is seeing( OM or someone else).
Then she goes in to the whole guilt trip on how she feels so bad and sad & she has to live with what she did everyday (ya WTF).
Anyway she told me she stopped taking her antidepressants & she has gained weight & how upset she is with her job (so I think she is very depressed unless it's a great acting job)
It's to bad the way she sees herself. well as her self- esteem, feel that she was not a good catch, or that I just put up with her when no one us would (she feels like the ugly duckling) which she is not at all!!
She said at times she has to leave the house so she doesn't cry in front of our S. She tells S she has to run out to grab something at the store.
Well this whole thing just sucks b/c in my heart I still love her & feel bad for her at the same time. trying to be forgiving, & being friends is just tough. I can't change how she feels or make her happy.
I honestly hope she is happy someday, but until she deals with her issues & deals with the loss of the M. I think she will run in to the same problems. Too be truthful I think we could have gotten thur this sh*t if it was just us. Ya it would have been work, but truly worth it in the end.
As for me I have been working on my issues with the help of our MC/ FT/ who is also my IC she has been great she knows everything & tried to help us.
I'm just lost like a dog on the street maybe I feel that I'm stupid for wanting to work hard & fight for her & my marriage. The ? I ask myself is why I still care & yes even love hers much!!
I told her I'm sticking to my vows and until were done there will be no one else for me. I guess that's how I was raised trust, honesty, & respect for myself & her.( maybe it's crazy at this point)
Its nice to flirt & get attention when I go out from the ladies, but my vows mean a lot. W even said I was a better person than her I told her no we both made mistakes. it's been tough a few nights but I said I'm still married.
Who knows what else could happen this year. At least my S likes the new place except not having cable till this week. . Thanks as always I appreciate your time, advice, & letting me ramble& vent. Take care talk to ya later Hope.
Ok so lots of folks have abandon ship so to speak, but having been asked to tell more of how I got through my piecing Im going back to blogging it again!
Short version as catchup...
H and I lived to tell the tale when Sis finally came to visit, she certainly wanted to show her claim on my H still, but H and I had agreed no night time chats without both of us being up!
Only sticky bit was being left on my own with Sis when I found out a whole load of stuff which H had glossed over, but we did talk about it and move forward from it.. Sis will never hold that title officially I have best friends who now fill that role!
Since then I have had a awful two weeks at work, my boss has resigned which unfortunately gave the office bully chance to rear his ugly head and start to pick on me, I think I have sorted it out and some of my work colleagues have been very supportive, but most of all H has been fantastic, he has supported me with cuddles, positive words and mostly actions.. taking me out to dinner to cheer me up, smiley emails to work..
My dear if not better H is now emerging and our R is so much better.. it will take a long time to put all the things we need to do into action, finances are a mess after keeping two homes and the fact H contracts leads it to be inconsistent, but I am proud to say H has sorted the majority of it all out and one day it will be straight..
Anyway enough for today, hope my constant prattling encourages folks that things can be turned around and kept heading forward..
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Back from work conference, hard work but rewarding, lots of networking and Im kinda proud of myself for standing on my own two feet. All other works conferences in previous years Ive attended with H as I used to work with him a lot, this time I was me and I had lots of folks pushing me to apply for boss's job and promising me their support, it was lovely! Hope you all have a good TG none for me though Im in the UK!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Interesting weekend, H & I fell out, was really weird not sure how it happened really, but we managed to sort it out.. just think we were tired and I still find it really hard to deal with is "Im doing it my way" attitude!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
