You're absolutely right that you have to choose your path. Be thankful that that you get to do that from a place of sanity and clarity. MLCers aren't capable of that, which is obvious by the decisions they make.
Punkin, I've found that a break from the boards helps me to assimilate what I read here in a way that is unique to me and my particular situation. It allows me to digest it all, and accept what is consistent with who I am and want to be. I suggest you read and reread the posts that you had the stronger reactions to and consider them carefully. Those are likely to be the ones that will help you grow the most. Be well. Take care of you! ((Punkin))
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
I threw in the towel a few times...only to later realize that I wasn't "done"...I guess at some point you KNOW...I am glad I never got to that point...I lasted about 2 years, filed for D twice, and didn't dismiss the last filing until nearly 3 yrs after filing!
Taking a break is good...sometimes it helps us see something we were missing before...
Just wanted to say that I think it is good to "step away" from the drama once inawhile! Sometimes, you just want "normal" even if it is just for a little while!!!! Take a break, be good to yourself!!!! Rome wasn't built in a day!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
There is no way to say thank you to each and everyone of you as I would like. I can't afford that many fruit bouquets!
You are not rid of me yet, I'm just taking some contemplation time and walking down a different path for a few days to see where it leads.
My H knows where I stand. It's up to him. I'm going to go out and have a good time in the meantime. No, not that good of a time.
Still hoping, still praying, but ready to accept God's decision either way.
I won't be gone that long. My mouth is too big. Guess I'll run now, it's a long drive to the naval base and the ship will be docking with all those sailors. ( Just kidding, Eric)
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
I threw in the towel a few times...only to later realize that I wasn't "done"...
This ^^^^ was me. I think I threw in the towel oh...say about 15 times.
I understand the need to take a step away from all of this. I will leave you wtih this Punkin...
Never let PRIDE get in the way of making the RIGHT choices for YOU. There is a difference between PRIDE and SELF RESPECT.
I am sure that you will make the right choice for YOU.
May God bless you and yours.
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I can't afford that many fruit bouquets!
You do not have send fruit bouquets to EVERYONE - JUSE ME
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Just kidding, Eric
I know you were. WIll miss your spunk.
Oh...one last thing - something that I will share from personal experience.
As an LBS, our confidence is shot, we are told albeit by actions and sometime words that we are less than dog chit. We feel that we cannot love or be loved. In short, we feel like chit and for some of us have been treated like chit for a long time.
As an LBS we are vulnerable at this stage. Vulnerable to a kind word, a long glance, a hug, some normal conversation a nice dinner, a good time out. Do not let that vulnerablitiy drive any of your choices. Be strong Punkin - I know YOU know you are.
Happiness is found within...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
As an LBS we are vulnerable at this stage. Vulnerable to a kind word, a long glance, a hug, some normal conversation a nice dinner, a good time out. Do not let that vulnerablitiy drive any of your choices. Be strong Punkin - I know YOU know you are.
NO truer words have been spoken...it is so easy to "I would never..." but put in a situation with someone understanding you, caring about you, seeing you for who you are and yet still wanting to be your friend...can quickly change, I speak from experience...I had my lines drawn, moved them a few times...I didn't ever break my vows but I did end up hurting someone's feelings along with my own...at the time it seemed ok because I said "I just need a friend, nothing more. I would not be free to be anything more unless I was divorced." But that didn't change the feelings that weren't being spoken...
Punkin, I've found that a break from the boards helps me to assimilate what I read here in a way that is unique to me and my particular situation. It allows me to digest it all, and accept what is consistent with who I am and want to be. I suggest you read and reread the posts that you had the stronger reactions to and consider them carefully. Those are likely to be the ones that will help you grow the most. Be well. Take care of you! ((Punkin))
Very wise advice Twink.
Take care S'punkin ... We'll be here when you're ready ... Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Just wanted to say that I soooo miss your book titles.
I hope you are okay.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
