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[Ready2Change]

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Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B.

[Ready2Change]

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..an argument I've seen used lately was "how dare you speak this way since you haven't saved your M"? Excuse me? If that was a valid argument, 99% of the veterans would have to quit posting. The Bomb and the aftermath, brings lots of wisdom. And one thing it taught me is that we need to keep our eyes open to different ways of approaching things and that we CANT control people.

[Ready2Change]

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Most women suddenly get VERY attracted to a man who walks away with his head held high knowing and realizing that he is a "great catch" and that he not only DESERVES a woman who is mad about him, but will GET one..

Your own lack of self confidence in what she really is giving up is what is holding back reconciliation. LET HER GO.. YOUR CHOICE.. YOU be the letting go leader..

MAKE her chase you... You have NEVER given her the chance to see how she really feels about you.. Give her that freedom and give her that chance. Hold the line. . Show her a man who chooses NOT to be with a woman who isn't attracted to him. They both deserve better.

[Ready2Change]

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Rarely, if ever, does the truth cause problems. How much of a 'free pass' should these cheaters be given? It's not OK what he did, and his infidelity is about a zillion times worse than your exposure of it.

[Ready2Change]

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I like the whole idea of "Doing the right thing... as if God, himself, were sitting there watching you".

You don't even have to be religious to get that either. It is saying to aspire to a more objective, universal ideal of doing the right thing ... often despite any emotions or personal agenda.

Or to paraphrase Coach, don't act on your emotions. Act on your principles.

[Ready2Change]

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You will need to be wise, loving, strong, in control and compassionate to make this work. You need to look at this like you are looking into a fish bowl to see the big picture and to see yourself in this.

[Ready2Change]

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R2C .. can u sticky that one?

All your answers are wrapped up and hidden in this statement:

I think I still do want W back, but I'm not even sure why I should anymore. I guess it is still fear of the unknown, of being alone.

Have you heard that leading is attractive to women? Then do not fear the unknown. Set your personal goals and start taking steps to reach them. I know you are doing this in certain areas of your life.

I challenge you to set a relationship goal. Would you like a #10 relationship with a woman by next Xmas? What would that look like? Your very first step is to set your wife free. I am sure you have read this before. Your next step is to get to happy alone. Enjoy every minute of every day. Enjoy every person you interact with. Do things that you enjoy. If you are lonely, go to places and interact with people. My place is starbucks. It is 1 mile from my house. I can walk in there anytime of day and know some one. I offer big smiles and lots of listening....

[Starsky309]

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You will need to be wise, loving, strong, in control and compassionate to make this work. You need to look at this like you are looking into a fish bowl to see the big picture and to see yourself in this.

Wow, that's really good. I hope I can be quoted someday!

Starsky

[Ready2Change]

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"If you keep this crap up"....

If suggests you're still putting up with this crap,
If suggests you're still hanging in there waiting for her to change,
If suggests that you're not moving on,
If suggests that you're not decisive

Stop the "if's", be decisive, just make a decision and go with it, you'll be surprised how well this skill translates into other areas of your life.

Just do it.
No "if's", No trying, No in-between indecisiveness.

2 options: Just DO it, or don't do it.

[Ready2Change]

when one realizes a past grave error in their own judgment, there's nothing that says they can't say "I made a mistake, and I won't live like that anymore."