How to tell the kids

[DanF]

have you followed my posts to lostnhurt?
if not, you should read that.

i see some parallels between the two sitches. just my observation.

D4MIL

I have D4MIL. I've read many of them, but should go back and read them all. I agree that our sitches are similar. I have been following him for a while, but he doesn't whine as much as I do, lol!!

I also thought we took slightly different turns in the last couple of months and I lost track of him for a while.

I'll try to go back when I have a minute.

Thanks for everything!

Glad you had fun playing squash tonight!

[DumpedforMIL]

I have D4MIL. I've read many of them, but should go back and read them all. I agree that our sitches are similar. I have been following him for a while, but he doesn't whine as much as I do, lol!!

lostnhurt did his share of whining but i put an end to that.

i've said to him from the start, that i don't usually give advice to others on this board. i don't know why i decided to help him out. to see him go from "i'm afraid" to "i'm not scared anymore" .. is huge. and that's where you need to be.

homework: read it and tell me what parts can you relate to.

squash was excellent. this 95 lb body can sure generate a lot of power.

i have to prepare for toastmasters tomorrow.

D4MIL

[idontunderstand]

Gosh, why am I such a baby? It was a hard day for me today.

Dan-

We are all human. We know what we should do under these circumstances. We won't always do the right thing. This hurts and it is hard.

Of all the people on here, I understand the back and forth emotions. We all do. It just takes some of us longer that others to get to where we need to be. You've had some set backs lately. Naturally you don't feel your best. You will rebound.

It is clear the type of person that you are. You have helped me a lot. I've been here longer and you are way ahead of the curve that I am. Not so good on my part, but I am getting there. You know what to expect and you know what to do to get back in the right frame of mind to get back to work.

Thanks for your continued support and, please, stop being so hard on yourself!

[Coach]

Apparently, my W told his that she is lonely now.

time to ramp up your GAL list. get busy, be social, throw a party - post it on FB, join a club, play at the park......

when you are busy, in demand and taking care of yourself it is pure catnip. when your wife sees others find value you in you it changings her feelings. handle it

[DanF]

Thanks to all for your continued support. I am honored to have such friends.

Nice to see you on my thread coach. I really value your advice.

[Ready2Change]

Hi Dan,

First, Coach is dead nuts on. Ramp up the GAL.

Second, I implemented a "Drop off parent" agreement with MsR2C. The parent with the kids always drops off for the exchanges. This avoids all the issues assoicated with a "Pickup Parent"....

I make my kids responsible for their phones...They are luxury items anyway. They turn them off when they get to school and turn them on when they leave....

[DanF]

Would it be inappropriate to go to a haloween costume party dressed as STBXW?

[TimeHeals]

Would it be inappropriate to go to a haloween costume party dressed as STBXW?

Is this some excuse to wear a dress?

[pookie69]

Would it be inappropriate to go to a haloween costume party dressed as STBXW?

Is this some excuse to wear a dress?

Gives you an opportunity to let others validate your feelings.

"Do I look fat in this dress?"

Good for your self esteem. I do it all the time.

[Ready2Change]

Would it be inappropriate to go to a Halloween costume party dressed as STBXW?

LOL! How about the Rated R version...Go in just her bra and panties....