I really was going to file Monday and i think she new i was that is why she was all boo hoo on Sunday and told me she was not going to the bar anymore. In all honsety i wish she would not have done or said anything to me on Sunday because i was going to file, i had enough. Now i am confused as what to do next, is she making an effort to work on the relationship or just distancing herself from her bad behavior so the court will not give me temp custoday of the kids and house. Yes I believe it was an EA no matter what she tells me, i have told her when you treat me different and you are talking secretly to OM that is emotional. Please advise where do i go from here
Where do you go? You have to follow through on things. If she is not going to be transparent, then there is still something going on, or she is still hiding something. Get transparency, or quit making idle threats. You can not continue to threaten divorce, and not have any action. You are just showing her how easy it is for her to manipulate you. She cries, you fold.
DB to WAW: "W, I will not live in an open marriage, and I will not share my W. If you are going to be involved with OM, then you need to move out of the house. I will take care of the children. This is not negotiable. If you do not stop your A immediately, cut all contact off from OM, and establish an open transparent relationship with me, then I will go file for D today as I have stated in the past. Again, this is not negotiable."
Because i believe even though what she was doing was wrong, she really was just friends with him, if she is truly happy with me there will only be friendships with other people.
You also believe she spent a weekend with 6 people in one hotel room.
She isn't happy with you according to her behavior.
She's having an affair.
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You also believe she spent a weekend with 6 people in one hotel room.
She isn't happy with you according to her behavior.
She's having an affair.
I know i have made progress on myslef, if i would have read this two months ago i would have freaked out and texted her accusing her of an affair, this did not even phase me. My DB coach thinks i unconciously want to be divorced.
what is it you want? its ok if you don't know right now.
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