How Many Here Who Have Actually Reconciled.....

[Kimmie Lee]

have broken down and told the returning spouse about this site?

I mean, besides Coach and Greek?

[DanF]

robx, dday, puppy dog tails, i think there are more, but i don't know.

you?

I'm hoping for me, but it doesn't look good.

[Kimmie Lee]

My ex and I did not reconcile.

But, even if we had, I doubt I would have shown him this site.

[Greek]

My ex and I did not reconcile.

But, even if we had, I doubt I would have shown him this site.

Because?

Greek

[Greek]

It was tough to read Coach here...initially. I did not prefer my business put out 'there' without my consent. But. But. But, open mind, open heart...I learned/learn here, too. So all good.
Greek

[DanF]

I misread the question because it ran from the topic line into the note. Sorry. i don't know if those people actually told the returning spouse about the site.

[Kimmie Lee]

Yeah.

To me, it smacks of "showing them the playbook." And we all know that's a big no-no.

[Greek]

Well, no-no, I would agree, while still "in play". But after reconciliation, isn't there some wisdom to share about how to piece? Again, not easy - we/I struggled with Coach being here. But long run, both LEARNED here.

I guess the timing is important.

What's going on?
Greek

[SDFoundGirl]

My husband and I reconciled, but I will never share this site with him. We've discussed everything that happened between us and shared strategies to keep us good. However, this is my private space.

He knows I had an online support group, but he doesn't need to know the details.

SD

[Kimmie Lee]

Yeah, jeez, what if they left again?

What are the chances DB would work again after that? I mean, what with the WAS having such razor-sharp BS detectors and all........