NM, those are great ideas, thanks! But I think that still requires a trip to the grocery store and what kinda guy ever goes there? It's like a woman walking into the men's room accidentally. You step in and wonder just what the heck are all these people doing facing the wall- then it hits you and you run outside screaming. Yep it's like that. So I do all my shopping at the gas station. Anyway, I have your STBXH beat with my idea...I picked up a pack of Chips Ahoy! they'll go in the oven when no one's watching. Then we'll see who's cookies are better mommy's or daddy's? I'm gonna pack a few for DD to take home to mom too.
NL, welcome to Romeo's fan club, the membership isn't cheap but we're growing exponentially. In fact, you just doubled it, thanks for that. In all seriousness what's the dealio with your H? he doesn't want sex but you do? how come I never have these types problems? Having been on the receiving end of the rejection I can sympathize. Do you have a thread of your own with some more info?
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
that is EX H. Divorce was final in October--see my sig line
but get the SOFT Chips a Hoy although how the heck are choc chip cookies "holiday?" Oh wait--they do make some with red and green chips!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Anyway, so I said these people don't have a clue what they're talking about so I just combined all the ingredients, whatever I had in the biggest pot I had. That reminds me...I have to go buy another bag of salt now.
Oh I love this! It was just a hodge-podge of ingredients!
All this cookie talk has got me wanting some warm baked sugar cookies. Mmmmm!
Sounds like you will have a great holiday, IR. Chicken is always a yummy choice!
Glad to join your fanclub;). Sounds like we are all smitten with your cookie escapades!!!
I don't really have my own thread, but started out at Sandi's place, and FMV has been so kind as to let me post on her thread "Arguing".
I essentially came here in a panic when my long-time online chess opponent & good friend suddenly became much more about a month ago. It was a wake-up call for me that I was VERY vulnerable due to decades in a good, but REALLY SSM. Let's see... H and I haven't been intimate in over 5 years this last dry spell. In the past, I had been tempted by my old college sweetheart (who is always at the ready if I say the word) but nipped that in the bud.
I'm extremely involved with my kid's lives, but this emptiness in my marriage has manifested itself inany negative ways through the years... Most recently a profound depression I could not pull myself out of. The OM in my EA had been kind, supportive, and given me love words I haven't heard in over 20 years. I know it can't go anywhere... We both discovered he is MUCH younger and lives 1000 miles away. It's a fantasy, an addiction, and I realize all that.
However, I do miss the love -- I can't lie. I've given H multiple hints and opportunities in the past few weeks -- asking him to get/read certain books, go out with me to an adultvfunction without the kids, etc. He just doesn't get it. He talks to me like a technical manual, and after all these years I want LOVE, and yes sex, intimacy, the whole enchilada. I've stayed around because ILH, and know he loves me, but most of all the kids. Now that the youngest is getting ready to go to college ??
Will not WAW for EA, but if there is no change, I might have to do so just to have some love in my life while I'm still young enough to do so...
The EA showed me how much I've given up to stay in M... And frankly. Not sure a SSM is worth staying in if H isn't interested in trying. Not sure if he had OW on the side, Porno, gay, or WHAT... Not in his character, but I feel really rejected and until EA just gave up even caring about myself it was so futile.
Sorry Romeo to hijack YOUR thread, but so glad to see someone here coming out happy and whole. You've got the healthiest attitude toward your ex that I've ever seen! Wish my H appreciated the best years of my life that I gave, and that I risked my life giving him those beautiful kids:(
It's verrrrry hard, especially when OM show interest.
Then I started to let myself go, just to keep the temptation away. No more. Doing everything I can for myself, and if H isn't interested... Well, WAW I will be.
Well I can see how you are suspectible to feeling wanted/desired by someone else though you should try to talk to your H.
NewLife, start a new thread on here so you get your own feedback instead of in this thread. You can add it to the Surviving D ifyou like. We are the cool ones in DB land . Kidding
