New Years was fun. Went to a party until shortly after midnight. It was getting kind of crazy and I had a 20 minute drive so I left. I texted D11 Happy New Year and she was up with D8 and two friends. This year, STBXW didn't pawn them off on her mom.
Jan. 1 was fun. I hosted a poker game at my house and I didn't win. It's not luck. I'm just not very good. Then an old friend said he was going out to see a band at a bar four blocks from me.
So I met him there around 10 p.m. and stayed until midnight. Just enough. Then I walked home.
I dragged the treadmill out of the garage and put it in the basement and used it yesterday and today. I hope that'll be the thing that keeps me in shape. Hey, summer is the next big thing and I want to be ready.
Today, I missed church. I slept in until noon. I feel bad about it, but my body needed the rest. I volunteered to be the editor tonight because I'll be cutting out early a lot in January to be the basketball scorekeeper.
Nice thing is I spent less than $40 for the entire weekend. That's what I need to do for a while. I need to hit the grocery store, but I can do that tomorrow.
Not a lot of thoughts about STBXW. The next court date is in nine days. The other day, dropping stuff off to the girls, I noticed an invoice from her L. That means she didn't use a pre-paid legal program through her job and is having to pay as we go, so the delay is hurting her as much as it is me.
Things should start happening soon. The next big thing for me is getting the taxes done. Filing married but separated. I'm going to owe a few thousand. I'm hoping it's not more than $3,000. If it is, that'll be a struggle.
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Sounds like you're doing just fine. Treadmill sounds like a good idea, I take it you're now in the new house, sorry I've been away and just peeking in. I'd forgotten all about the taxes. I'll be paying more this year for sure due to the M but S status but not much we can do about it. Goodluck on your court date, is this the final one? Mine's next week too...not final though.
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No, SR. The Jan. 11 date is another "status" hearing where my L will show up and her L will show up with nothing new to report. It's been seven weeks since the last one and five weeks since her L assured us we'd have a final proposal before Jan. 11.
No rush though. Now that Christmas is over I can begin working on summer break with the girls. I'm thinking a trip to Minnesota to visit my sister, go to Valley Faire amusement park and the Mall of America. That would be the centerpiece of the summer.
Last night, I typed up a proposed revised weekend schedule. I need to switch several weekends for my second job in the summer.
She didn't respond today and I know she was on email because she sent another one.
Trying to decide what to do on Jan. 18. I have a basketball game to work, but D8 is singing at her school. I could switch though. I'd hate to miss it.
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Remember the girls are only young once. Go to the concert. Money is money. Yes it is important and the basketball game helps you, but D8 will always remember that you went to all her concerts and shows so go. You can't get another concert, but you can always pick-up an odd job to make up the money.
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I switched the Jan. 18 so I can go to D8's concert. I had to give up a night with them this past weekend though because a game was added to the schedule and I had to work it. So D11 went to a friend's house on Saturday and D8 went to STBXW's.
Oh well. It saved me sitter money so I came out ahead for the night -- and Sunday was a very good day. Church, Texas Roadhouse because of a coupon, a hike through the woods and then swimming at the health club. Another weekend where there were no raised voices, no timeouts.
Tomorrow is the next status hearing and nothing new.
I saw STBXW briefly a couple of times this weekend and now she avoids my eyes. She never looks happy when I see here anymore -- but that might just be because I'm around.
D11 mentioned that the house will go back on the market in April. It's going to be another long summer. House prices are likely to drop another 5 to 10 percent this year here. Nationally, I read a story about how prices need to fall another 20 percent to get back to historical trend lines. There is less hope that it'll sell this year than there was last year.
The thing with the Match_36 girl is petering out finally. On Tuesday she broke up with a guy she was seeing even while she saw me twice and texted me several times to come see her. It was veeeerrrryyyy tempting, but I said no. I'd made plans to meet a friend at the gym at 5 a.m. and I wasn't going to break it to spend the gas and wine and dining money to see her.
She sent an angry text at 2 a.m. and I didn't see it until morning. She apologized by text on Wednesday. I responded Thursday and there's been just one text since.
Phew.
Funny thing, Sunday's sermon was on temptation and it was very good. They showed a video of little kids who are put in a room with one big marshmellow. They are told that if they wait five minutes to eat it they'll get two marshmellows. It's hilarious watching these little kids struggle with not eating it.
The message basically what are the marshmellows that keep you from being the person you want to be?
I'm going to work on that this year. I have a long road to travel financially and I can't waste time and money chasing the wrong women.
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As you get out there, try to have some lines ready for when you meet someone you don't want to continue with. As a lady, I would rather you tell me that you don't want to continue seeing me instead of being a "nice guy". I might be unique in that idea.
It is good to date, and there are going to be many bad ones out there, but just make sure you are honest with yourself and that person. Be upfront about not wanting anything serious right now and make sure to tell the person if you don't want to see them anymore. I think honesty is best even if that means that person gets mad.
Oh and probably no more spending the night of the first date because that definitely takes it to the next level and unless you are ready for that don't do it.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
Match_36 girl sounds spoiled, needy, and desperate. Stay away!
Keep working on yourself and get healthy, then you'll attract healthy women. It's hard, I know...but worth it in the end. Stay strong, focus on your girls, and the dating life will be there when you're ready.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
